How we make 'others' feel

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People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
               ― Maya Angelou

so if we did a survey, how would most people say you made them feel Shawnna?

I guess the question I'm asking is similiar to polarity.  We all probably think we are doing positive polarization, and yet, I'm pretty sure not all of it is (we mistakenly identify our actions as being positive when they are most likely not).

So we have an idea that we are being loving ... but how does that match up to how others actually experience you?

we can take paragons like Carla, and she just did her business, and yet, as her farewell thread shows - she made people feel a certain way with how she lived her life and what she did with it.

I'm a fairly understated guy ... but when I was at my 5 year work presentation two weeks ago, my manager gave quite the review in front of the whole team.  I'd like to think it was all genuine  

So I mean, if you want to know the effects you have on others, let them speak for themselves, in a spontaneous way.