Aid in Catalyst

[Minyatur]

I want to forgive her but I don't see how or why I'm supposed to, if anything it feels like I'm supposed to get angry...  To better understand each other but I already fully know anger is not a lone experience but shared.  Yet I'm so frantic in thought in anger that I feel blinded.  Being at work there's not a free hour to take a bit to sort myself out, so its a long, "I DON'T GET IT, ARRGHHH"

Anyone need more details or have any questions, or thoughts for my catalyst?

Forgiveness is important because at the end of space and time she's you, so your anger is only directed at a sub-portion of yourself. I don't believe in coincidences so like you said maybe your irrational anger found a way back to you just like maybe she needed to let go of some of her own inner anger on someone she's not close to.

Worry not friend, all emotions you experience are only there for you to further analyze self and other-self. People who radiate negativity need to have a lot of negativity within. If you want to look at this from the positive path's perspective, the response should be worked toward loving the person and wishing she was better. From the negative path's perspective, putting her in her place is well. 

A good exercice is rather than asking yourself how you should've acted, ask how did she need you to act? Did she need you to let her get over herself or did she need you to resist her like you did.

My personnal answer is that all is well always.