Masturbation

[outerheaven]

I do believe that this energy, if mismanaged, can create and strengthen unhealthy bonds with negative entities or thought-forms which seek to feed off one's energy. At my current stage, I'm learning how to replace these bonds with healthier, more positive ones.

Bump for an earlier thread that I missed, but is now timely in my life!

This is an interesting taking Aaron, and one I'm inclined to agree with from my own experiences. (I also agree heartily with the sentiment others have posted that we are here to experience, so I'm not about to set any rules or conditions for anyone else!)

I have had a routine averaging somewhere around once daily for years. Lately, I began to notice that while I still had the desire/impulse, I was definitely running through the motions and it was not an enjoyable or beneficial experience. I had always told myself that I had to do it, because if I didn't, I would be too sensitive and sex with my partner would not be enjoyable for either of us.

It also felt a bit strange that after all the inner-work I'd done in the past couple years, my sexual behaviors had basically stayed the same. Even though, at some level, I felt that our sexual energy and drive is one of the keys to experiencing our spirit -- and contrarily, can even be used against us as a means of enslavement and/or control.

Once I recently took my blinders off and actually *noticed* this problem, I quickly worked to change it. As for my concern noted above, it is not only untrue, but sex has been much, much more enjoyable for both of us!

I'm also now a lot more interested in learning about the energy workings involved in sex, orgasm control, multiple orgasms, etc.

Hindsight shows me that I had a very narrow view of sex in the past: it was basically an end to the means, the inevitable orgasm. A race to the finish. Now it's about truly enjoying the moment and basking in the glow which has totally transformed my idea of what the experience should be.

I definitely recommend considering sex from a different perspective to anyone who hasn't; that said, I know it's hard to reach that point where you have the desire and motivation to change an ingrained behavior. It's not like I didn't know about tantric sex beforehand, after all. Maybe my post will be a catalyst to someone who could benefit from a change in perspective, like I myself could have a couple months ago.