Is Happiness a Choice?

[anagogy]

Is it judgemental to consider someone selfish, shallow and unloving? Aren't some people genuinely like that? How do you discern someone's character without being judgemental? You probably already answered that but I am very confused. I am really trying to get my thoughts in order and to really start forming healthy and positive patterns of thought. For someone wanting to live in peace, harmony and love, whats the best way to think about others? Thank you anagogy

All I can tell you, Folk-love, is that the more you notice or pay attention to those qualities you perceive to be negative, the more they will crop up in your experience. You activate the vibrations of those things by giving your attention to them. Consequentially, those are the experiences that will be attracted into your experience. Negative is only negative from relativity of the positive. What you perceive as negative qualities, STS view as positive traits.

Now, your portion of the creator is as it is. You are positively polarized. Naturally you would not favor predominantly STS traits. There is nothing wrong with that preference. It is your nature.

But when STS behaviors, from others, crop up in your life experience, you prolong their impact in your reality by giving them your undivided attention. If you turn the other cheek, and attempt to see the good in them (even if there isn't much), you will activate positive, desirable, qualities in your experience.

What does this mean for you?

It means, if those individuals are to have any permanent beingness in your reality, the only time the universe will rendezvous you with them is when they are having one of their (possibly rare) positive moods. If you tend to your vibrational offering first, by finding pure alignment with the essence of you, things that are not a vibrational match to that resonance that have vibrated themselves into your experience then have to, by virtue of the law of attraction, vibrate right on out of your experience.

Isn't that interesting?

So while there is no right or wrong in discerning what are, objectively, and obviously selfish expressions of behavior, you do yourself a grave disservice by paying any significant attention to them, and in fact, you actually *add* power to that negative action by your very attention to it. Whether the judgment is objectively true, or merely a distortion of subjective perception, it makes little difference, as either way you are culling more negative experiences out of the universe by the focus of your consciousness.

Every heard the saying, "Hate of war will not bring peace, only love of peace will bring peace"?

We would all do well to ponder the implications of this profound truth.