Is Happiness a Choice?

[Billy]

Whats the difference between judgement and discernment? The one thing that bothers me about being positive and thinking positively is how it often results in suppression of unwanted thoughts. I am trying to find a balance between the two I guess. I'm wondering which thoughts are worth examining and which are worth discarding entirely.

The difference between judgment and discernment is that judgment implies a good/evil dichotomy. Discernment says, "this is hard" and conversely, "this is soft". But the moral judgment is not there. There is no moral imperative. People often think that they are just observing how another person is, and whatever qualities they behold is "how they are". But your very observation of what you consider to be negative qualities actually helps pull the behavior out of them in your presence.

Ever heard the saying that if you treat someone like an animal, they will start acting like one? Well, it happens on the vibrational level too. If you could focus only on the attributes of a person that you found desirable that would be the only behavior they could offer to you. The undesirable behavior would be left out of your experience, by virtue of the law of attraction, strange as that may sound. The only things that enter your conscious reality are symbols concomitant with the vibrations you have active within you.

There is nothing wrong with making observations, and distinctions, but keep in mind that when you condemn a person in your mind, believing them to be a bad person, you telepathically see to it that they always show you their worst side. So by this you can begin to see the virtue of less observation, and more creation. What we think is just observing is often us just creating by default, which is the externalizing of whatever stock beliefs we have going on about what is being observed.

Objectivity is harder to achieve than anyone really understands.

So now I hear you asking, mentally, can we ever get a true picture of a thing, or person, if we are always creating a reality? Yes, you can, but not until it doesn't make a difference to you either way how a person or thing acts. If you can purely expect to see a thing's nature, with no expectation of what that nature entails, then you will come to understand it, for good or for worse, but honestly, you can just focus on what you want to experience and the symbol that matches it most purely will come out of the woodworks to fit the vibrational placeholder you have created.

Everything in reality is a symbol for different intangible qualities. You have a vast panoply of attributes which are the many faces of the one infinite creator. You find resonance with who you really are, and those attributes, and symbols, that accentuate who you really are, will assemble around you, as you are a symbol too.

Is it judgemental to consider someone selfish, shallow and unloving? Aren't some people genuinely like that? How do you discern someone's character without being judgemental? You probably already answered that but I am very confused. I am really trying to get my thoughts in order and to really start forming healthy and positive patterns of thought. For someone wanting to live in peace, harmony and love, whats the best way to think about others? Thank you anagogy