Singles / Dating

[Diana]

Well, I couldn't sleep tonight and after tossing and turning in bed, gave up trying. So I went to my computer like a paper clip to a magnet, as often happens. I saw this thread at the top of B4's "today" list, and here I am.

I read it all and have been LMAO. Not at everything of course. Maybe I'm just tired, but there was a lot of funny stuff here.

Now to the serious part.

I don't see anything wrong with reaching out to, searching for, making lists about, or simply yearning for a partner, soul mate, friend/lover. I also think it's fine and okay to have wild, crazy, fleeting sexual encounters.

But I would make this suggestion: concentrate on yourself and becoming the person you want to be. The energy you create by doing this will draw that amazing person to you. If you are putting out energy of "need," you will most likely attract someone with a reciprocal need. But if you feel whole, or at least comfortable and confident with who you are and what you are doing, and you aren't putting out vibes of need/yearning, you will be "open" to receiving a person who will compliment you rather than fulfill you.

The other thing is to be open-minded when it comes to who might make a good partner. Unplug from the media if you can. Hollywood and advertising have so warped our self-images and our ideas of what is attractive, it's insane. If a woman isn't airbrushed perfect, anorexic, and have a boob job, she just doesn't make the cut in this society. If you think you aren't affected by this, think again. It's insidious.

How many times have you heard that women want men who can cry and who express their feelings? But then, when the men do, the women run the other way. These women are simply reacting to the media and saying or thinking what is popular.

Try not to be too narrow in your thinking. There's nothing wrong with visualizing a mate, but if you are rigid about 25 to 30, you might be blocking that 35-year-old you're meant to hook up with. If you say you like "beautiful," question that. What is beauty? Does a man have to be tall, for instance? Why?

Here's my story:

I have had a few relationships and dated a lot. I had a lot of fun and experienced great catalyst while in relationship. I got to the point though, where I was focused more on my work and my own growth. During this time, I lost interest in the whole dating/relationship thing.

After a time, a channeled entity told me (last year) that I was going to meet someone. I didn't believe it, nor did I want it. "He" asked me to make a list (for fun) of what I might possibly want in a man. I didn't get very far making that list because I just wasn't interested.

A couple of months later I did meet someone. But he was not someone I would have considered dating because he was a lot younger than me. We hit it off though, talking each other's ears off for 3-4 hours while my family waited for me. We had gone to a dance exhibition and he was the MC and dance teacher. I lived in another city. But we got back together for dinner and conversation, and though I was slow to come around to it, we ended up in a wonderful relationship.

This was a good lesson in not "judging the package."

It can be lonely here in a 3D world with so many sleeping people. I wish everyone here the best in finding a soul mate (a mate for the soul as well as the person).