10-04-2014, 12:31 PM
(10-04-2014, 12:14 PM)Monica Wrote:(10-04-2014, 12:07 PM)Diana Wrote: I envy anyone who does not buy into guilt. I am not so evolved or fortunate.
It's popular in New Age circles to think of guilt as something bad, something to be denied. I think they are confusing healthy remorse with lingering guilt that occurs as a result of nonforgiveness of self.
Healthy remorse has a purpose: to trigger introspection and, if appropriate, modification of choices. Healthy remorse shouldn't be suppressed.
We cannot decide for another person whether they 'should' feel guilt or not. But, an absence of guilt isn't necessarily an indication of being highly evolved. Nor is it necessarily a goal to aspire to.
Yes. That is how guilt works for me. It reminds me with visceral intensity that my actions or reactions were not ideal or my highest best. Which is why I am not evolved enough to be beyond guilt and its usefulness as an evolutionary tool—because I evidently still need these reminders.