07-02-2010, 12:12 PM
(07-02-2010, 11:41 AM)blargg Wrote: Everyone thanks for the thoughtful responses. I think I'll go with the general forum consensus and try to help them only in an open fashion.
The fridge example is an excellent method for offering help in a way that might be more accepted by them. We packed them some food and snacks for the kids last night as they were going on a road trip.
I agree that there are definitely some pride issues getting in the way. But I also know of people that seem to accept gifts openly and offer little gratitude in return. I can see it and it is somewhat a turn off for me because I have a tendency towards this behavior in my own life if I don't keep it consciously in check.
Well thanks again everyone for helping me in what was a gray area for me in my understanding.
To open the heart, and fully express the service that you are doing onto them. In my opinion, be open, and tell them that you would not like the full amount.