07-02-2010, 11:41 AM
Everyone thanks for the thoughtful responses. I think I'll go with the general forum consensus and try to help them only in an open fashion.
The fridge example is an excellent method for offering help in a way that might be more accepted by them. We packed them some food and snacks for the kids last night as they were going on a road trip.
I agree that there are definitely some pride issues getting in the way. But I also know of people that seem to accept gifts openly and offer little gratitude in return. I can see it and it is somewhat a turn off for me because I have a tendency towards this behavior in my own life if I don't keep it consciously in check.
Well thanks again everyone for helping me in what was a gray area for me in my understanding.
The fridge example is an excellent method for offering help in a way that might be more accepted by them. We packed them some food and snacks for the kids last night as they were going on a road trip.
I agree that there are definitely some pride issues getting in the way. But I also know of people that seem to accept gifts openly and offer little gratitude in return. I can see it and it is somewhat a turn off for me because I have a tendency towards this behavior in my own life if I don't keep it consciously in check.
Well thanks again everyone for helping me in what was a gray area for me in my understanding.