06-23-2010, 12:29 AM
Dear forums,
Reading this thread, I was thoroughly enjoying the discussion, especially from one member in particular. I reached a point wherein this particular member began receiving a small barrage of personal criticism and, by all intents and purposes, judgment from multiple members.
This thread is the most recent example of members feeling their toes being stepped on by the one known as Unity100, and the short version of this lengthy post is this: The moderators in unison feel that Unity100 would do well to make some small modifications to his approach. Those who cannot find their way to accepting Unity100 are falling unacceptably outside of the forum guidelines. Please read on for a more elaborate exposition on these statements.
In response to this issue, the moderators have invested some time in reviewing Unity100’s postings, focusing especially on the way he interacts with others in the forums. While we recognize imperfection in Unity100’s approach (which I’ll get to momentarily), we have not found reason for the strength of the negative reaction generated in response to his posting. Indeed it’s all the more puzzling considering so much of the negative reaction is taking place in a pretense of offering “love” to Unity100 – or – aiding him to conform to a forum-wide ethos of love.
Here is what I and the other moderators generally feel about Unity100’s postings: Unity100 is intimately familiar with the Law of One material, drawing upon it extensively to make his points. Citing the Law of One and incorporating the material into his posting more often than many do, he generally forms all of his conclusions within the context and framework of the Law of One, whether or not others agree with his assertions. He is intelligent, willing to discuss anything and everything, responds directly to the points raised, and really digs down into the information at hand, synthesizing the Law of One material with his understanding into novel and illuminating configurations of thought. His articulated understanding is – though lacking finesse, brevity, and some other qualities helpful towards harmonious interpersonal dynamics – rather sophisticated. The other moderators and I find ourselves agreeing with a surprising number of the points Unity100 raises.
The Style of Unity100
What in his postings can the moderators identify as triggering these negative reactions? Firstly, Unity100 (and I hope you’ll take note, Unity) seems to be very straightforward and focused almost exclusively on the information being debated and discussed. He doesn’t take the time to make pleasantries or acknowledge that there are energies other than academic discourse at play. While such niceties aren't precisely required for participation on a discussion forum, they do help to foster communication, understanding, and overall good vibrations among members. After all, any discussion forum is a social construct, not just an academic one. Still, this alone isn't enough to explain the negative reaction from some of our other members.
Observing further, we notice that unity100 sticks strongly to his conclusions, backing them up to whatever extent he feels necessary. This can be interpreted to be a manifestation of arrogance. As Monica pointed out to me, sometimes new members receive less understanding and accommodation than established members, because they don't have an established pattern of interaction. (Sort of like when siblings bicker even though they love each other, whereas they wouldn't tolerate such behavior in strangers.)
In any case, it is the moderators’ opinion that these matters are stylistic in nature: they amount to concerns of style, not substance. However, they are apparently enough to draw the ire from positively oriented members of Bring4th. Therefore, Unity100, the moderators, while enjoying the content and the heart of your posting immensely, would firmly request that you modify your style ever so slightly so as to work in greater harmony with the living, dynamic energies which belong to the other members of Bring4th. You can accomplish this by incorporating nods of respect and gestures of affection to those with whom you interact. We're not asking you to be false. We're just asking for some basic courtesy.
Additionally, instead of beginning your replies and rebuttals with a dismissive “no” – or with the idea of “no” – you could find creative ways to honor what the other has said, seeing value and merit even in that which you find to be fundamentally incorrect.
These changes are rather small and non-sacrificial concessions that will go a long way in this forum, Unity100. Please do what you can to follow through and you will have the appreciation of Bring4th members and the support of the moderators.
As to Unity100’s alleged judgmental attitude, I find Unity100 to be a rather even, cool, measured, and dispassionate writer. I never get the sense of strong emotion carrying him away. Where simple discernment and labeling something “as it is” – as a result of one's observation – becomes actual condemnation or judgment, is a fine line whose boundaries I am not qualified to draw. Asserting that a particular entity acts like an “adolescent celebrity” could be an objective observation of a behavior which many would describe in such a way, or it could be judgmental. I suppose the difference would be this: Discernment does not obscure the Creator nor blind the entity with feeling of separation. Judgment does.
I personally tend to see Unity100’s assessments leaning more towards discernment; however, some of his statements may well skirt the boundary between the two. Thusly, Unity100, I would suggest treading carefully when offering that which may be perceived to be judgmental, without of course compromising your truth.
(I will note here that Unity100 has written this into his signature line: “except what i refer to, all i say is my opinion or what i learned. i may or may not be correct.”)
Guideline Number 1
I have seen numerous instances of members remarking on and celebrating the harmony, the love, and the respect so present on these forums. I always try to share these statements with Carla because, while each who participates is responsible for the collective harmony, it is also a testament to the purity and the polarity of the material which Carla has been so instrumental (pun intended) in providing to the world.
The forums got this way and continue to be so positive not because everyone’s postings have intrinsically merited or earned respect, but rather because members continue to give respect regardless of whether or not it is perceived as “deserved”. We give this respect not conditionally, not only to those who "deserve" it, but we give it because in so doing we become and remember who we are and what this IS.
This does not of course mean that we all become doormats who cannot respectfully say “Adios amigo!” to one bent on violating the guidelines. This means that we seek to operate from an opened, activated, and balanced blue ray energy center in our communication:
Session #41: RA: “Green ray is the movement through various experiences of energy exchanges having to do with compassion and all-forgiving love to the primary blue ray which is the first ray of radiation of self regardless of any actions from another.”
As Monica recently said, “Regardless of Unity100’s personality flaws, putting him on the chopping block isn't a loving response. Are we to accept only those whose personalities we like? Forgiveness is always the answer to resolving conflict, not [joining up] to offer unwanted interventions on a member [being perceived as irritating].”
The abject and outright lack of respect shown to Unity100 on this thread and in others is not in keeping with the spirit of our guidelines and the desires of Carla Rueckert and Jim McCarty for these forums. In the unanimous discernment of the moderators, the first guideline has not been manifested in certain replies to Unity100.
This is by far more grievous than any charge laid at Unity100’s feet.
As one, the moderators request that this behavior cease instantly and in its place creative, loving, accepting ways be found to work out personality differences.
Please feel free to discuss this further by PM’ing the moderators or replying to this post. If you should choose to reply to this post, we may split this thread.
Thank you to everyone already doing the work of creating and sustaining harmony. Thank you for your time and thank you in advance for your continued operation within the parameters of the Bring4th Forum Guidelines. Each of you is greatly valued as a member and we do what we can to serve you and facilitate a sacred environment of shared learning and discussion. http://www.bring4th.org/forums/showthread.php?tid=63.
Love/Light,
GLB
Reading this thread, I was thoroughly enjoying the discussion, especially from one member in particular. I reached a point wherein this particular member began receiving a small barrage of personal criticism and, by all intents and purposes, judgment from multiple members.
This thread is the most recent example of members feeling their toes being stepped on by the one known as Unity100, and the short version of this lengthy post is this: The moderators in unison feel that Unity100 would do well to make some small modifications to his approach. Those who cannot find their way to accepting Unity100 are falling unacceptably outside of the forum guidelines. Please read on for a more elaborate exposition on these statements.
In response to this issue, the moderators have invested some time in reviewing Unity100’s postings, focusing especially on the way he interacts with others in the forums. While we recognize imperfection in Unity100’s approach (which I’ll get to momentarily), we have not found reason for the strength of the negative reaction generated in response to his posting. Indeed it’s all the more puzzling considering so much of the negative reaction is taking place in a pretense of offering “love” to Unity100 – or – aiding him to conform to a forum-wide ethos of love.
Here is what I and the other moderators generally feel about Unity100’s postings: Unity100 is intimately familiar with the Law of One material, drawing upon it extensively to make his points. Citing the Law of One and incorporating the material into his posting more often than many do, he generally forms all of his conclusions within the context and framework of the Law of One, whether or not others agree with his assertions. He is intelligent, willing to discuss anything and everything, responds directly to the points raised, and really digs down into the information at hand, synthesizing the Law of One material with his understanding into novel and illuminating configurations of thought. His articulated understanding is – though lacking finesse, brevity, and some other qualities helpful towards harmonious interpersonal dynamics – rather sophisticated. The other moderators and I find ourselves agreeing with a surprising number of the points Unity100 raises.
The Style of Unity100
What in his postings can the moderators identify as triggering these negative reactions? Firstly, Unity100 (and I hope you’ll take note, Unity) seems to be very straightforward and focused almost exclusively on the information being debated and discussed. He doesn’t take the time to make pleasantries or acknowledge that there are energies other than academic discourse at play. While such niceties aren't precisely required for participation on a discussion forum, they do help to foster communication, understanding, and overall good vibrations among members. After all, any discussion forum is a social construct, not just an academic one. Still, this alone isn't enough to explain the negative reaction from some of our other members.
Observing further, we notice that unity100 sticks strongly to his conclusions, backing them up to whatever extent he feels necessary. This can be interpreted to be a manifestation of arrogance. As Monica pointed out to me, sometimes new members receive less understanding and accommodation than established members, because they don't have an established pattern of interaction. (Sort of like when siblings bicker even though they love each other, whereas they wouldn't tolerate such behavior in strangers.)
In any case, it is the moderators’ opinion that these matters are stylistic in nature: they amount to concerns of style, not substance. However, they are apparently enough to draw the ire from positively oriented members of Bring4th. Therefore, Unity100, the moderators, while enjoying the content and the heart of your posting immensely, would firmly request that you modify your style ever so slightly so as to work in greater harmony with the living, dynamic energies which belong to the other members of Bring4th. You can accomplish this by incorporating nods of respect and gestures of affection to those with whom you interact. We're not asking you to be false. We're just asking for some basic courtesy.
Additionally, instead of beginning your replies and rebuttals with a dismissive “no” – or with the idea of “no” – you could find creative ways to honor what the other has said, seeing value and merit even in that which you find to be fundamentally incorrect.
These changes are rather small and non-sacrificial concessions that will go a long way in this forum, Unity100. Please do what you can to follow through and you will have the appreciation of Bring4th members and the support of the moderators.
As to Unity100’s alleged judgmental attitude, I find Unity100 to be a rather even, cool, measured, and dispassionate writer. I never get the sense of strong emotion carrying him away. Where simple discernment and labeling something “as it is” – as a result of one's observation – becomes actual condemnation or judgment, is a fine line whose boundaries I am not qualified to draw. Asserting that a particular entity acts like an “adolescent celebrity” could be an objective observation of a behavior which many would describe in such a way, or it could be judgmental. I suppose the difference would be this: Discernment does not obscure the Creator nor blind the entity with feeling of separation. Judgment does.
I personally tend to see Unity100’s assessments leaning more towards discernment; however, some of his statements may well skirt the boundary between the two. Thusly, Unity100, I would suggest treading carefully when offering that which may be perceived to be judgmental, without of course compromising your truth.
(I will note here that Unity100 has written this into his signature line: “except what i refer to, all i say is my opinion or what i learned. i may or may not be correct.”)
Guideline Number 1
I have seen numerous instances of members remarking on and celebrating the harmony, the love, and the respect so present on these forums. I always try to share these statements with Carla because, while each who participates is responsible for the collective harmony, it is also a testament to the purity and the polarity of the material which Carla has been so instrumental (pun intended) in providing to the world.
The forums got this way and continue to be so positive not because everyone’s postings have intrinsically merited or earned respect, but rather because members continue to give respect regardless of whether or not it is perceived as “deserved”. We give this respect not conditionally, not only to those who "deserve" it, but we give it because in so doing we become and remember who we are and what this IS.
This does not of course mean that we all become doormats who cannot respectfully say “Adios amigo!” to one bent on violating the guidelines. This means that we seek to operate from an opened, activated, and balanced blue ray energy center in our communication:
Session #41: RA: “Green ray is the movement through various experiences of energy exchanges having to do with compassion and all-forgiving love to the primary blue ray which is the first ray of radiation of self regardless of any actions from another.”
As Monica recently said, “Regardless of Unity100’s personality flaws, putting him on the chopping block isn't a loving response. Are we to accept only those whose personalities we like? Forgiveness is always the answer to resolving conflict, not [joining up] to offer unwanted interventions on a member [being perceived as irritating].”
The abject and outright lack of respect shown to Unity100 on this thread and in others is not in keeping with the spirit of our guidelines and the desires of Carla Rueckert and Jim McCarty for these forums. In the unanimous discernment of the moderators, the first guideline has not been manifested in certain replies to Unity100.
This is by far more grievous than any charge laid at Unity100’s feet.
As one, the moderators request that this behavior cease instantly and in its place creative, loving, accepting ways be found to work out personality differences.
Please feel free to discuss this further by PM’ing the moderators or replying to this post. If you should choose to reply to this post, we may split this thread.
Thank you to everyone already doing the work of creating and sustaining harmony. Thank you for your time and thank you in advance for your continued operation within the parameters of the Bring4th Forum Guidelines. Each of you is greatly valued as a member and we do what we can to serve you and facilitate a sacred environment of shared learning and discussion. http://www.bring4th.org/forums/showthread.php?tid=63.
Love/Light,
GLB
Explanation by the tongue makes most things clear, but love unexplained is clearer. - Rumi