How to negatively polarize in a balanced manner

[anagogy]

To be honest, I think you may be overcomplicating negative polarity a little bit. Service to self means just that: service to self. They hold their own ego in higher esteem than all other egos. That's it.

Everything else they do is simply a result of that. They seek power, because they seek higher and higher plateaus of self realization (much as the positive polarity does), which means, from a negative standpoint, when exalting one's ego, everything else must be subservient to that ego. Seeking power is the key to this control over others. They just don't care about others, except to the extent that others can help build them up, or give them pleasure. Empathy is seen as a weakness to be overcome.

Negative polarity sees god in self, and everything else as the servant of that god. This path is energized by developing the spiritual power of falsity, or separation.

Positive polarity sees god in everyone, and everyone serves everyone. This path is energized by the spiritual power of truth (seeing things how they really are, rather than how we wish them to be), or oneness.