Loving Difficult People

[xise]

I've found the best way to deal with difficult people is to love myself completely. Trust myself completely. Then I feel better and I'm better able to put up with them and sometimes even radiate love because I'm overflowing with it, and when they are being unreasonable and controlling and I stand up for myself, I don't feel bad. Because I love myself and understand that if there's a serious lack of love from others I'm around, the only way I'm gonna feel love is to love, understand, and protect myself if I so desire. And trust myself that I've already made the choice so I know I'm not gonna become some crazy negative entity by showing myself some much needed love.

You can accept a murderer, but that didn't mean you roll over when they try to murder you because also love yourself. The same applies to any situation where you are being mistreated.

Good luck bro. Family stuff is hard.

P.s. In my opinion, anytime you feel bad about yourself for any reason, or feel bad about what you want to do, you are not loving yourself. You are engaging in self judgement. We're all spiritually mature enough to no longer need the old paradigm of the carrot and stick approach the behavior - this is good or bad, right or wrong. Anything you do is acceptable. You've already made the choice. The vast majority here have chosen the positive polarity and you will find you will have a natural inclination to love and serve others once the blockages involving the lower three rays are addressed.