Are you asking more about using sexual desire as a springboard to finding a potential mate or just looking at an other self with only a sexual desire relative to polarization?
Speaking from personal experience, way back when I first met my ex, of course I thought she was gorgeous but it wasn't something like "man I'd like to get her in bed". It was more like "oh my god, I have to know more about her". I even had a girlfriend at the time but I begged my boss to hire her. He asked me why since I already had a girlfriend and I responded "I don't know why but you just have to".
There has never been such a moment from the subsequent women that I've been with but definitely a moment of notice with some of them. It's more of an instantaneous click or verification that "yep this is one that is important" it may not work out but I've found by being with a few different women that these "clicks" have all lead to a lesson of sorts. They are also excellent mirrors as I see a little of myself within each of these women.
None of the desires for these women were sparked by a sexual desire initially. There was attraction don't get me wrong but it was more what I saw in their eyes that showed me that this particular other self had something in store for me.
On the flip side, since I work in a hospital with a ton of hot nurses, my sex drive is constantly quite high considering the constan flirtation that goes on. In this atmosphere, yea all I'm thinking about is how to get these women in bed lol
Speaking from personal experience, way back when I first met my ex, of course I thought she was gorgeous but it wasn't something like "man I'd like to get her in bed". It was more like "oh my god, I have to know more about her". I even had a girlfriend at the time but I begged my boss to hire her. He asked me why since I already had a girlfriend and I responded "I don't know why but you just have to".
There has never been such a moment from the subsequent women that I've been with but definitely a moment of notice with some of them. It's more of an instantaneous click or verification that "yep this is one that is important" it may not work out but I've found by being with a few different women that these "clicks" have all lead to a lesson of sorts. They are also excellent mirrors as I see a little of myself within each of these women.
None of the desires for these women were sparked by a sexual desire initially. There was attraction don't get me wrong but it was more what I saw in their eyes that showed me that this particular other self had something in store for me.
On the flip side, since I work in a hospital with a ton of hot nurses, my sex drive is constantly quite high considering the constan flirtation that goes on. In this atmosphere, yea all I'm thinking about is how to get these women in bed lol
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