The spiritual relevance of sexual energies.

[anagogy]

Perhaps there are times when someone is guided to be with someone else despite a lack of attraction. But I don't know, it seems unlikely to me. How would people get past normal relationship difficultness with that added onto it.

There are preincarnate agreements that are made sometimes where two people have agreed before hand to be mated in life. A plethora of programmed "signs" would push them towards each other in a such a case.

Sexual desire felt across the room. Is this a genuine method of choosing 'mates'. It seems to me likely it is if experience starts from the lower chakras up. It can start there, then you see if they fit heart chakra wise.

It depends. It's all about alignment or lack thereof. You are receiving inspiration to act all the time. If you are in alignment, which you can easily recognize by a sense of all pervading 'well being' or joy, your inspired actions will always take you towards that which you are truly wanting (what your life experience has caused you to want). If you are acting from a lower vibration of inspiration, your actions will inevitably lead you to disappointment.

I did get an insight from this discussion into why people who worship porn models don't get porn models necessarily. Because on some level they don't believe they are worth them. And that this rule might generally apply to relationships in general, people couple in relation to what they believe they are worth.

That is absolutely right. Belief is a kind of attention as well. Or, we might say it is a thought you keep thinking. When you don't believe you can have something, your attention is on the lack of what you want, rather than the presence of what you want. So lack is what inevitably manifests.