02-21-2014, 08:09 AM
(10-10-2012, 08:14 AM)nina1021 Wrote: "Again I agree with with blatzadict. I'm turning 24 in two weeks and I feel a huge disconnect with guys my age. And older guys do not take me seriously. They take my looks at face value and only want one thing. I've even tried to down down play my looks. Wear loose clothing, meet guys at a bookstore instead of a bar yet it always comes down to one thing. There goes Nina with the great smile and great body ugh. Anyway I'm going to try speed dating in NYC woohoo maybe this won't be a lonely winter after all. Lol sorry for the rant. And maybe it's because I've decided not to be with a broken person anymore. I've dated a lot of broken people and our relationship usually ends because I've fixed them and helped them meet a better person because they are a better person. Ha! No more case loads for me lol
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I think this fixing pattern happens to a lot of us - happened me scores of times... I think we have a hard time putting up with disharmony and suffering so we help but on the other hand we are not "bitchy" enough to keep them on their toes. I think picking people who need help is what Ra refers to when they say that 4D make bad choices (I think higher Ds make the same kind of choices).
Besides, guys, don't you think that we might just have different, not altogether conscious, standards of relationships imprinted where we came from, which are rare or non-existent here? Deep honesty, for example. Aversion to pretense and ignoring disharmony, fake smiles and smalltalk and manipulation. Sure, earthly relationships are often built on the opposite to what perhaps is normal for us.
Hmm after reading my post I feel like I came off a bit bitchy so I must add some optimism. I know I'm an old soul I just find it challenging for someone like me to relate to anyone my age. I'm from jersey and most of the people in my surrounding areas are into a lot of superficial things.
Another difference in standards :-)
It's like no one wants to just sit and have a good conversation with out incorporating alcohol or mind numbing music lol. I know my soul mate is out there maybe I should just walking around with a t shirt that says "missing soul mate have you seen him?" That way it will trigger something in someone's mind! Does anyone want to share how they met their significant other? It will give me hope
Lots of kisses, Nina. At least know that you are perfectly normal and so are your expectations.
Best of luck!