Positive and Negative interpretations of catalyst

[zenmaster]

Is it possible that as you become more self-loving the amount and intensity of catalyst increase when you're in a relationship with someone who triggers/mirrors feelings of negativity?

not if you define love as acceptance.

Because then you wouldn't experience it as such?

Yes, because the catalyst would then be consciously integrated as acceptance of self which is "love". Forming the complementary neurotic structures provides the catalytic learning experience which may result in acceptance of self, if consciousness is applied during the relationship.