projecting

[Marc]

i'm curious to see every1's views on it bc i learned today that apparently people that are new to it will try to force-fit its operation on others, in an attempt to make sense of what they don't understand...do u agree with this?

To a certain extent... It does depend on whether or not the person is just projecting someone projecting. ;D

how do u define projecting?

I would define projection as the biases, opinions, and distortions of a person's interior world being projected onto the objective exterior world, and this is mostly an unconscious activity.

how long have u known about it? when you discovered it did it change you? what are your opinions on it? how often do you find yourself stopping & thinking, "am i projecting here?" how often do u find yourself admitting to yourself that something u've communicated may have been mostly a projection?

I've known about it subconsciously for a couple of years but within the last year it has become very vivid to me. When I fully understood it, I began a series of self reflective meditations and everytime I was bothered by someone or something I would take it as a sign that I may be projecting. I went projecting my anima onto my first GF for a few years and when I realized it, I was like, "I'm not in love with you, I'm in love with myself!"

In my dreams I'm almost always semi-lucid, in the back of my mind I'm aware that I'm dreaming. In my own experience of projecting now, I'm always aware that I'm projecting although it can be pretty hard to stop when my ego gets all riled up.

here's my current opinion on it:

i think the concept is mind-blowing; it's like the subconsciousness gets to become conscious & interact with us every now & then.

since projections are typically done unconsciously i now find it's best to not point out to some1 that they be projecting bc typically all this is doing is asking for denial & an argument & god knows what else. people are likely often unaware they're projecting for a good reason. & people are likely aware when some1's projecting for a good reason. the reason being peace of mind.

so i've decided i'll choose to only see the beautiful (& often hilarious) projections & move on rather than point them out. from now on, when i see some1 that i think's projecting i plan to laugh & then wish them love, light, peace, joy, and then bid them well & not engage in making them aware of something that they're perhaps not meant to be made aware of.

I wish someone would have set me aside and told me I was projecting sooner. Usually while in neurosis it's hard to tell anyone anything, but once someone comes out of their neurosis, I think it can be benifitial to share your opinion that they might have been projecting.

Also, in comedy TV, it seems that the writers love over-exaggerating projection in their shows. It's now a common thing to see, but more often then not portrayed in an intellectually infantile fashion.