Pornography

[Marc]

Thank you all for your responses and insights, it'd take a while to respond to each, so I'm just gonna respond to a few.

Marc- when do you usually find your self consuming pornography?

For the most part it happens when I'm bored, just want to relax, and desire a release (I've always had a lot of sexual energy). In the past I would use it to escape loneliness, but I don't feel that way very much since I'm married.

Some other issues I can think of are how it is used or over-used (e.g., distancing from partner/emotional infidelity, for mutual pleasure with partner, temporarily solution to release energy)... or what expectations people get from watching it (esp around female sexuality, objectification, fact that most of the 'pleasure' is faked by actresses). As Horesus said, that dopamine overload is an important issue bc it can lead to addiction… you can exercise and release dopamine too. I guess there are alternative which you may divert your energy.

I have not used it as a way to escape fidelity and it hasn't been that I don't enjoy our sex-- it's more about an aid to masturbation than anything.

In regards to objectification, I don't enjoy mainstream porn, but enjoy nude art and soft core scenes (many lesbian scenes) because of appreciating the natural beauty of sexuality. I'd hate to see women being treated as objects and being 'dominated' as PA referenced in his post.

In regards to 'addiction', what constitutes an addiction? I like eating whole wheat bread a whole lot and it'd be very hard for me to cut it out of my diet. Am I 'addicted' to it? I know there could possibly be benifits to me going gluten free, but I like gluten, is that really an addiction?

What is the definition of addiction?

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The male has a buildup of creative energy. When the male does not express in any creative means it will be easiest to release it through something sexual, which includes porn.

I think it can very easily become an obsession because of creative blockages and the ease of access.

I've tried this before by writing songs and playing guitar-- to quote a fav video game of mine: "it's not very effective". But that's just my subjective experience...

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I've heard that ejaculation is a waste of our spiritual energy.

Expends some red energy. So will unground you a bit and make you a bit more tired. However, 2-3 times a week I'd say is a moderate amount. If you don't release the pressure, eventually your body will on its own. Never ejaculating won't turn you into superman.

What effect could the actual porn have on the psyche/spiritual energy centers?

Activates almost exclusively orange ray. So if you constantly think about sex, your orange ray will be constantly overactive, causing imbalance.

And is it that different than sex or plain masturbation?

Depends what kind of relationship you have to your partner.. and what types of fantasies you have.. But the orange part is a constant.

*darn about not becoming superman by abstaining from release!*

I don't think about sex very much, just when I'm bored. Also I don't have any fantasies, I just enjoy bliss.