Lying

[thefool]

Some wise words there, thanks. Out of interest - what would you do if you were in Josh's position? Would you tell the truth including all details, and risk splitting a family, or tell the truth and remain quiet on some confrontational details?

Namaste-
Those original words were not intended for Josh as such. I was in a hurry to leave the office and just saw the last part of his post stating the question about Lying. That triggered this monologue lol

Josh- I don't know what I would have done in your situation as every situation is different and has nuances. But after reading your post I feel you handled it fine. In my opinion if that is what you said then it was not a lie. You did not volunteer extra information but you did not lie as per me. It is fine. Why do you feel like you were lying? There seems to be a much bigger undertone that just this incident ... just my guess...

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Is invoking negative emotions in others is wise at this time, when the opposite is needed to assit Gaia's evolution?

Of course not talking about this situation but in general-
Invoking negative emotions is never wise but telling the the truth has a much bigger role. When you just lie you are not solving anything. The absence of negative is not necessarily positive. Positive start with solid foundations. Truth is part of that foundation. Lying in a situation is just like putting flowers on an injury. Is it going to treat the injury? the treatment begins with telling the truth that there is a problem and we need to treat this. Positive comes from understanding the situation including the negative aspects, understand the lessons from the situation and then finding love in that situation...

I really think that there is better possibility of acceptance and love when all parties have all cards out in the open. And no one is holding their cards close to the chest. There may be an initial ruffling of feathers and an emotional drama may ensue. But in the long run the trust gained is worth it. The other person is just living in confusion about your real intentions then they can not even start with the their own healing/forgiveness process... What are they going to forgive when they are not even sure you have done anything wrong? We just keep living this luke warm ways and never having the courage to move forward...

I really really find it so much saner/easier to just tell the truth and see how the chips falls. And deal with it one time then deal with living the lie everyday... (again it is not related to this specific situation)

Of course telling the truth does not have to be blunt and in your face. You can be compassionate and gentle, and I find myself committing that mistake as well...

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That last questions are open by the way, not directed and yourself thefool - thinking out loud

No harm done even if directed at me. My validation comes from inside and not from outside...