04-16-2010, 03:28 PM
I too would like to add my thanks for starting this thread.
Ashim, I admit sometimes I have a hard time following your train of thought, but your opening post was very lucid and helpful to me. I found the Higher Self concept somewhat confusing, but your write-up of opening to Oneness as a first step to begin the Dialogue rang true.
I am also grateful for the suggestions from Ali. I am not in the habit of speaking with my Higher Self and don't really know how to go about it. I am in the habit of speaking to the Creator in a personal way, but it never occurred to try it with my Higher Self. Perhaps it's because I'm not really sure whether I am actually a Wanderer, despite my resonance with LOO and my deep commitment to spiritual seeking. Because of that, maybe part of me feels that I don't yet have a 6th density manifestation looking back at me but of course we must all have a Higher Self, given the illusion that is Time.
I wanted to quote the above thread because I understand the concept of feeling a negative thought's antithesis and canceling it out. I have no trouble with this in mediation or contemplation when all is still. However, Lavazza could have been speaking for me just then, because I can never seem to be able to do this while in a disagreement with an Other-Self. I have felt the exact same uncomfortable feeling when I try to suppress my reaction to negativity in the moment. Could you guys please elaborate more on how to do this? And is contact with the Higher Self the solution to the problem?
Here's a quick example: I have a co-worker who I frequently am troubled by. I feel great compassion and love for her -- she appears to be enslaved by her uncontrollable emotions. One moment she is nice, joyful, and buoyant, and the next she is aggressive and angry. I can tell she is caught between two polarity paths. She is a project manager. Some days she embraces teamwork and cooperation, and I see a real desire to serve our customer and be kind to our employees. At other times, she becomes extremely abusive and controlling, starting arguments, belittling the employees, making petty insults, and trying to manipulate the customer and control the employees by force. It's almost like she's two different people, depending on the way the wind blows. But I see it for what I believe it truly is -- polarity confusion, the sinkhole of indifference. It is up to her to choose to Serve others or Serve herself, and I don't think she's decided yet.
No matter how cruel or unfair she is to me and others, I can always find forgiveness in my heart for her, combined with sadness and compassion that she lives in such a confused state. However, that is only AFTER the fact. When she is being unkind in the moment, I just cannot seem to tune in to those understanding, loving vibrations that come so easily to me later. I have tried to suppress my negative reactions, but I often feel worse after doing so. I have also tried to find a balance and set firm boundaries of respect while still being kind, but it is challenging for me to not cross that line between drawing my boundaries and being spiteful in return. I actually watch myself feeling unkind feelings of separation and anger when she is being cruel, and it is even worse when she directs it at other people. I truly, truly wish I could find a better way to harmonize IN THE MOMENT and hopefully diffuse the situation. This is actually a hot topic for me, since this is only one example of many such situations that I have been struggling to deal with positively.
I could really use some more advice on this topic of how to cancel out the negativity and harmonize it. I feel somehow intuitively that more direct contact with my Higher Self would help me with this issue but I can't exactly explain why.
If you guys have any more to add, I would be honored to hear your words.
Love to all
Ashim, I admit sometimes I have a hard time following your train of thought, but your opening post was very lucid and helpful to me. I found the Higher Self concept somewhat confusing, but your write-up of opening to Oneness as a first step to begin the Dialogue rang true.
I am also grateful for the suggestions from Ali. I am not in the habit of speaking with my Higher Self and don't really know how to go about it. I am in the habit of speaking to the Creator in a personal way, but it never occurred to try it with my Higher Self. Perhaps it's because I'm not really sure whether I am actually a Wanderer, despite my resonance with LOO and my deep commitment to spiritual seeking. Because of that, maybe part of me feels that I don't yet have a 6th density manifestation looking back at me but of course we must all have a Higher Self, given the illusion that is Time.
(04-16-2010, 01:43 PM)Ashim Wrote: If you notice a ‘dark’ thought and a low vibration try to catch that thought in ‘mid air’, hold it and ponder as to the antithesis. Search your soul for the corresponding positive thought and ‘cancel out’ the negative charge. This is healing of the Self.
(04-16-2010, 12:50 PM)Lavazza Wrote: Ashim, do you think it's best to catch a negative thought while it's happening, or to let it play itself out and then reflect on it after the fact? I have many times found myself in an argument, feeling negative feelings and consciously realized what was happening while it was happening. But I have rarely if ever been able to cease the negativity in the moment, and when I have it has been an uncomfortable almost suppressive feeling. Do you know what I mean? It seems easier and more natural to find the opposite feeling afterwards, but perhaps I am missing the point of the exercise...?
(04-16-2010, 01:43 PM)Ashim Wrote: Yes, catch it in mid flight. Try to 'see' yourself acting on Shakespears 'stage of life'. It's quite amusing to watch catalyst at work 'from the outside'.
I wanted to quote the above thread because I understand the concept of feeling a negative thought's antithesis and canceling it out. I have no trouble with this in mediation or contemplation when all is still. However, Lavazza could have been speaking for me just then, because I can never seem to be able to do this while in a disagreement with an Other-Self. I have felt the exact same uncomfortable feeling when I try to suppress my reaction to negativity in the moment. Could you guys please elaborate more on how to do this? And is contact with the Higher Self the solution to the problem?
Here's a quick example: I have a co-worker who I frequently am troubled by. I feel great compassion and love for her -- she appears to be enslaved by her uncontrollable emotions. One moment she is nice, joyful, and buoyant, and the next she is aggressive and angry. I can tell she is caught between two polarity paths. She is a project manager. Some days she embraces teamwork and cooperation, and I see a real desire to serve our customer and be kind to our employees. At other times, she becomes extremely abusive and controlling, starting arguments, belittling the employees, making petty insults, and trying to manipulate the customer and control the employees by force. It's almost like she's two different people, depending on the way the wind blows. But I see it for what I believe it truly is -- polarity confusion, the sinkhole of indifference. It is up to her to choose to Serve others or Serve herself, and I don't think she's decided yet.
No matter how cruel or unfair she is to me and others, I can always find forgiveness in my heart for her, combined with sadness and compassion that she lives in such a confused state. However, that is only AFTER the fact. When she is being unkind in the moment, I just cannot seem to tune in to those understanding, loving vibrations that come so easily to me later. I have tried to suppress my negative reactions, but I often feel worse after doing so. I have also tried to find a balance and set firm boundaries of respect while still being kind, but it is challenging for me to not cross that line between drawing my boundaries and being spiteful in return. I actually watch myself feeling unkind feelings of separation and anger when she is being cruel, and it is even worse when she directs it at other people. I truly, truly wish I could find a better way to harmonize IN THE MOMENT and hopefully diffuse the situation. This is actually a hot topic for me, since this is only one example of many such situations that I have been struggling to deal with positively.
I could really use some more advice on this topic of how to cancel out the negativity and harmonize it. I feel somehow intuitively that more direct contact with my Higher Self would help me with this issue but I can't exactly explain why.
If you guys have any more to add, I would be honored to hear your words.
Love to all