How to find your "twin flame."

[Diana]

I think I'm being misinterpreted because of my lack of clarity on the subject of monogamy. Let me rephrase if I can.

Society, and people in general, seem to have a mundane need for monogamous relationships. I think this is based on lack of wholeness in the individuals concerned, and lack of understanding and acceptance of free will and growth.

However, it may be that monogamy has a place in maintaining a relationship so the catalysts are played out and resolved. But to force monogamy in any way, it seems to me, is controlling others for selfish reasons, and not deriving from love.

When I say it should flow naturally, I mean that being monogamous would be choice, or rather a natural occurrence, not a condition.

Am I being clear at all? Look at mundane, average relationships out there. Doesn't society, religions, even the legal system judge monogamy to be the "proper" way? And don't individuals at least subconsciously lean on these "rules" to keep their partners with them exclusively? Haven't we all, in some relationship or another wanted to keep a partner from leaving or straying away? But what good is it to do that?

As for a twin flame, or a soul mate, or any "higher" coupling: by the time one is whole, with an open heart, I don't think the idea of monogamy will be an issue at all. It's only an issue for those trying to control situations.