How to find your "twin flame."

[Diana]

Not to diminish the search for a twin flame and sound like Spock, because such a find would certainly make life here more tolerable, but much of this desire is born, in my opinion, from the nesting instinct deriving from the limbic brain. There is a strong instinct to perpetuate the species.

I think it's better to stay focused on self. The right people always show up in our lives. I don't think everything is set up and pre-planned to minute detail, but we attract into our lives what is needed for evolution and growth. So why not spend our energy on growth to begin with, and allow connections to flow naturally?

Also, this desire may arise from a feeling of not being whole, and feeling alone. So, once again, working on self is an answer. Endeavor to feel whole as an individual. Connecting with another individual may have the impression of making a person feel whole, and in a way this is true, as each helps to highlight certain areas of resistance for the other (catalyst).

Just as in allopathic medicine, there is no magic bullet in the mating world. I see all my connections as what I needed at the time.

Not to mention, monogamy is another societal judgment. I'm not saying that people should not respect their relationships, rather, unconditional love in its real sense would not include any desire to isolate a sexual partner. Monogamy would happen naturally if at all--it simply wouldn't matter.