Good deeds and politeness will not polarize you alone.

[Adonai One]

Learning to accept the kindness of others without suspecting ulterior motives is helpful as well.

One should be wise. An offering of "kindness" that comes with strict conditions and costs is not a true act of compassion; It's an offering of control.

Rationality and lack thereof does not have a direct correlation to compassion. One does not have to trust all to love all.