08-25-2013, 01:02 AM
(08-24-2013, 06:31 PM)zenmaster Wrote: I think one of the main utilities of an immature relationship like that is to reveal insecurities. This seems to be present if the idea of love as "eros" or that romantic aspect of love which is always strong (and feels great) but rather short lived. The longer term or more substantial love has less dependencies on that mutual lower-level bond (and complementary neurotic structure) and recognizes and enjoys more independence and freedom. That freedom is what provides the ability to experience a closer relationship with the person more as they actually are.
Yeah it's a good and intense ways to work with catalyst, having someone to project onto etc. That sensation of being in love has a strong chemical component (e.g., oxytocin, which is higher in women - that need to bond) so it would be short-term. I wonder what a relationship between highly balanced people look like, who enjoys independence and freedom... By that point I think many choose life as a monk I would think lol. Like Krishnamurti explained when asked why he did not marry: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SAFR6V3KvEw
I guess the societal ideal of romance and relationship peaks expectation of what relationships are supposed to be like. I mean, attachment/bonding is considered 'normal' and could be healthy in psychology (but modern psychology focuses exclusively on lower centers).