Conscious Control over our Universe

[zenmaster]

You try to convince someone that you won't reject them and that you love then, and they will not believe you bc this rejection/abandonment schema (pattern) is so strong... to them it's absolutely true in every case. Then ironically they push others away and therefore fulfill their expectations that indeed, they are going to be rejected, thus reinforcing their thoughts about others, themselves, and how relationships work.

Well with such expectations you are limiting possibility. Such possibility is what allows a relationship to grow in the first place. In such a try-to-convince scenario, the other person's unconscious will additionally be seeing the necessary conditions imposed on how they may express themselves and how you are expressing yourself which may not find congruence in feeling consciousness. Also, if and when you become aware of the magical circumstance in a relationship, you can not control like that without being abusive because you are limiting free will.