Conscious Control over our Universe

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When thoughts like beliefs are globalized, it's more a function of our mind making short-cuts (e.g., heuristics) to make things easier to interpret incoming stimuli (what we see, hear, smell, etc.,) and how we make decisions/choices in how to deal with catalyst. These thoughts are based on one's life experiences. There may be utility and wisdom in it, yet may not be applicable to every circumstances. Some thoughts may be totally outdated and not applicable. As we become complex thinkers we may be able to practice meta-cognition: the ability to think about what we are thinking, thus be able to reflect - what is this thought about? Where does this thought come from? Does it serve me in understanding/working with this situation? We increase the awareness of what we tend to do and why we do it, so we can change the way we do things and see things and understand things, if we want to.

This is why flexibility and contemplation is important... to observe one self and the worldviews, biases, assumptions, and values are important (I think these things are 'organized' in our personal unconscious and works behind the scene so we do things automatically). They will guide us in how we understand our 'reality' and how decisions/choices are made.

If your thought tendencies point towards a global view that the world is a dangerous place and that you are not competent enough to do 'the right thing' and therefore you are a helpless human being, then everything or most things that come your way will inform you that you are constantly in danger and that you can't do anything about it. You interpret everything based on this 'lens' you look thru. e.g., When you expore past experiences you may be able to see how you learned that this life is dangerous (e.g., being in abusive relationships or repeated experiences around rejection or abandonment). This past experience becomes a template of how you view all subsequent events. It's difficult to unhook from those 'lenses'. Buuut you may have an aspect of self that views things differently that is not yet conscious (the part of self that can see the 'exceptions to the rule' or experienced compassion or acceptance but since the wound is so painful, this side may not be so apparent). You try to convince someone that you won't reject them and that you love then, and they will not believe you bc this rejection/abandonment schema (pattern) is so strong... to them it's absolutely true in every case. Then ironically they push others away and therefore fulfill their expectations that indeed, they are going to be rejected, thus reinforcing their thoughts about others, themselves, and how relationships work.