08-15-2013, 10:49 PM
Notalone, thank you for creating this thread and being open and honest about something personal to you that you feel is an issue. I'm glad you brought this up.
The nature of communication in the chatroom is naturally different from the forums. Someone may make an inappropriate comment on the forums and a couple hours later a mod may come across it and drop a reminder or warning, or a member could use the report function to notify us of something they feel is inappropriate and we will see it as soon as we log in. Essentially, there's a much higher chance of us seeing abuse and attempting to correct it when the communication is static like on the boards.
The chatroom is obviously much more dynamic and constantly moving. Not only does this make it difficult to moderate, but there's no function for reporting, and if a mod isn't present then we are likely to simply not witness or address any abuse. We took one step to address this by designating good friend and cockatoo wrangler plenum as chatroom moderator. While he's present much of the time he still cannot be expected to catch and address every inappropriate action.
That being said, both the forums and the chatroom have guidelines in place which attempt to quell this type of thing. If you think something could qualify as sexual harassment or crossing the line of disrespect, don't hesitate to report it to the mods. If it's in chat, you could attempt to privately message plenum about the issue, if he's available. You could also send me or Bring4th_Aaron a forum private message with the transcript of the event copy+pasted, with a date and time, and we will look into it. It's rare that we'll catch anything "in the act," but we can still follow up and issue reminders and warnings if someone is crossing the line in the chatroom.
Now, to address something else in this thread. BrownEye, your comment, though currently redacted, was a highly inappropriate response especially given the topic of this thread, for a couple of reasons.
On the surface, it's disrespectful and deliberately attempting to elicit an emotional response based on something highly personal that Notalone just shared.
But even if the intentions were to help pinpoint the root of an emotional issue through deliberate prodding, it's still inappropriate. Notalone did not create this thread asking for help in pinpointing her issue and she did not offer herself up for public analysis and diagnosis. This approach of sort of "guerrilla energy reading" is not appropriate and such exchanges should only happen when there's an explicit agreement between both parties.
Being disrespectful is still against the guidelines even if you are attempting to be helpful in a roundabout way.
(08-15-2013, 03:33 AM)Notalone Wrote: I don't want to sound like an old grumpy feminist here but there's a remarkable difference in moderating here on the board vs chat regarding how the guidelines (in general) are taken seriously. Especially around sexuality.
The nature of communication in the chatroom is naturally different from the forums. Someone may make an inappropriate comment on the forums and a couple hours later a mod may come across it and drop a reminder or warning, or a member could use the report function to notify us of something they feel is inappropriate and we will see it as soon as we log in. Essentially, there's a much higher chance of us seeing abuse and attempting to correct it when the communication is static like on the boards.
The chatroom is obviously much more dynamic and constantly moving. Not only does this make it difficult to moderate, but there's no function for reporting, and if a mod isn't present then we are likely to simply not witness or address any abuse. We took one step to address this by designating good friend and cockatoo wrangler plenum as chatroom moderator. While he's present much of the time he still cannot be expected to catch and address every inappropriate action.
That being said, both the forums and the chatroom have guidelines in place which attempt to quell this type of thing. If you think something could qualify as sexual harassment or crossing the line of disrespect, don't hesitate to report it to the mods. If it's in chat, you could attempt to privately message plenum about the issue, if he's available. You could also send me or Bring4th_Aaron a forum private message with the transcript of the event copy+pasted, with a date and time, and we will look into it. It's rare that we'll catch anything "in the act," but we can still follow up and issue reminders and warnings if someone is crossing the line in the chatroom.
Now, to address something else in this thread. BrownEye, your comment, though currently redacted, was a highly inappropriate response especially given the topic of this thread, for a couple of reasons.
On the surface, it's disrespectful and deliberately attempting to elicit an emotional response based on something highly personal that Notalone just shared.
But even if the intentions were to help pinpoint the root of an emotional issue through deliberate prodding, it's still inappropriate. Notalone did not create this thread asking for help in pinpointing her issue and she did not offer herself up for public analysis and diagnosis. This approach of sort of "guerrilla energy reading" is not appropriate and such exchanges should only happen when there's an explicit agreement between both parties.
Being disrespectful is still against the guidelines even if you are attempting to be helpful in a roundabout way.
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