Sexism

[Diana]

Do you have big boobs?

See, it would be nice if this comment didn't feel like a punch in my stomach.

When I started working for myself I was an advertising illustrator. I was dealing directly with biz owners and creative directors, most of which were men in positions of power. They constantly hit on me.

The way I dealt with it is to completely ignore it. If a man said something of a sexual nature, I went back to point: the job. Not in an offended way, just subtly keeping on track with why I was there. It worked--on so many levels.

However, we are different individuals. It's healthy to set boundaries, but not so efficacious to be emotionally attached to other's comments. But this tool works. It's sort of like rising above it. If you practice it, you may find that your focus becomes trained on moving to something else rather than being "stuck" on the offense.

It's hard work at times to be here, and you are not the only one who looks out an feels like a toddler. I most often feel like a teenager soul.