Hellfire? and fundamentalist, fear-based religious doctrines

[wanderer4d]

My daughter & I spent the afternoon with my mom today. As we were leaving she reminded my that next Sunday is Easter and that we shouldn't forget what that's all about. I told her I still remember. Then I said that we do have different beliefs but that we are not that far apart. For I see my mother ,and my father who died 2 years ago, as being STO, even though it's through the lens of what I see as a fear based religious belief. THEN she says "I just want to be sure I see all my children in heaven." or something very close to that. And as I said something to the effect of "Me too mom." (I never can remember what I really have said when I try to remember these convos) I was thinking to myself "Boy mom are you in for a big surprise!" Or something like that.
I love my mom....
These kinds of moments with her used to be a lot harder. Like the time she told me "Anytime a child off mine goes against the will of God it stomps on my heart." That was years ago and in response to me telling her I might have a son. Out of wedlock. Never seemed to be concerned about the kid. I think for her the line between the "Will of God" and social judgment gets a little blurry.