Feigning unconditional love.

[anagogy]

I've touched this subject subtly in different aways and others have responded to this indirectly but I think it deserves it's own focused topic.

Is there any value in feigning unconditional love for a person and being silent around them because you are afraid to evoke "an unbalanced response"? Are unbalanced responses and balanced responses all that makes love? Or is there something more to it?

Would a person with a true desire to love not want to truly get to know and express themselves to a person even as unbalanced as they might be and vice-versa?

For instance, is it really unloving and unbalanced to tell a person you are angry? Should we really just shun our desires and pretend not to be angry at all?

Faking a certain level of love is disingenuous, and unhelpful to yourself and others.

Also, acting from a state of anger will rarely bring you desirable results. An emotional signal of that much negativity is a clear sign from your Higher Self that whatever you are focused upon in this moment is very much at odds with what would make you happy. Think of emotions as your Higher Self's way of saying "warmer" "warmer" "colder" "colder", in your search for peace, joy, and love. You are getting feedback about your every thought, all the time. Unfortunately, most train themselves to ignore this invaluable feedback.

People always talk about creating their own reality. Until they don't like what they are experiencing, and then they deny all responsibility for it. But the thing is, there is no assertion in this universe we live in. Everything that you experience is invited by you, at some level of your being. Even if it appears to be coming from others. It wouldn't be in your experience if you weren't a vibrational match for it. So what to do?

Find a better feeling focus.

Trying to get to the bottom of the issue is a never ending pit. The more you look, the more you become a vibrational match to the essence of the imbalance, and the universe just keeps yielding more experiences like it to you via the law of attraction. It's a little like the over used adage goes, "Hate of war will not bring peace, only love of peace will".

If someone were making me angry, what I would do is spend some time thinking about the positive aspects of that person, even if there are few to contemplate. As you do this, you will most likely feel your emotions change. Your Higher Self will not join you in negative thought (it doesn't find fault with others), so when you get your mind off the negativity you will begin to once again feel the joy of that communion, and have the advantage of its broader perspective.

There are many subtleties to this process which will reveal themselves as you go along.