03-05-2010, 01:26 AM
(03-05-2010, 12:38 AM)fairyfarmgirl Wrote: I meant in the context of misuse of power. When a person is objectifyed-- personhood is denied. Some much harm is done to another and self when a sentient being is objectified... This is what happens in Porn... the woman ceases to be a Human Being and is instead an object... an object to be viewed and used as such.
Thanks for the clarification! And thanks for distinguishing between STS sex magick and STO sex magick.
I agree 100% with your comments. When I was with that boyfriend who was addicted to porn, it was a really big issue to me. (I used to tear out all the centerfolds in his Playboy mags, since he said he bought the mags 'for the articles.) But I never understood why. I just knew that it made me sick deep down, just sick. Now I understand why I felt that way. He of course accused me of being possessive and jealous.
I realize now that I wasn't really a person to him either. I existed to please him. Significantly, his dad was a porn addict too.
I know that many otherwise spiritual men struggle with this issue. This thread is helping me to have more compassion for men in general. What made it difficult for me to feel compassion for men before was that it's so common for men to laugh at their wives for being upset about their porn. The prevailing attitude in our culture is Boys will be boys and women who have a problem with it are often considered uptight.