03-03-2010, 08:05 PM
(03-03-2010, 03:08 PM)Biu_Tze Wrote: No guilt this time.. either way you have my apologies!
No need to apologize! We love and accept you!
(03-03-2010, 03:08 PM)Biu_Tze Wrote: I have a lot of love for both of you, hearing your stories, it has truly opened my heart
Wonderful!
(03-03-2010, 03:08 PM)Biu_Tze Wrote: I'd like to thank ya again monica, some very deep stuff, the part where you said "needless to say, I didn't take him back" kinda dismantled my new found feelings of love and forgiveness, I don't want to separate myself from this person, I feel like she's here for a reason. I don't feel like I've passed the test yet, there is much work to be done. I am pretty prone to suggestion it seems! or maybe that's just how things are for me when my emotional state isn't blocked off.
I was only sharing my own personal experience. I am not in any way suggesting that you should or shouldn't continue a relationship with her! That is something you will have to decide for yourself, based on your own personal guidance.
In my case, I think I actually helped him more by not getting back together with him. It would not have served either of us to get back together. Forgiving the other person doesn't necessarily entail being around them or in a sexual relationship with them. And sometimes we can help a person more if we're not sexually entangled, because the sexual relationship forms all sorts of connections which can sometimes confuse the interactions.
Then again, green-ray sex can be very healing. The key here is: green-ray meaning that it's based on love/giving/serving the other-self. Only you can decide whether a sexual relationship with this person is for the highest good for both of you.