Sexual addiction! and Male-Female energy roles/energies

[Monica]

I have to share and ask all of you if you have had similar experiences, my girlfriend and i have had sort of telepathic sex since this summer, where we can give each other orgasms just by focusing on the yellow-ray chakra, with clothes on and everything, just laying completely still.

WOW!!! You are indeed lucky! What an amazing connection you must have! No I've never heard of that, but it makes perfect sense.

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Monica... Wow! Thank you for sharing your views. I think you have some really insightful comments there.

And thank you for sharing yours! You have made some very insightful comments as well!

In particular I appreciate your interpretation of Ra's comments on the unique sexual energies that each gender has. I remember reading that in my first pass through the LOO books, but didn't pause to consider it. It makes perfect sense. Each partner comes to the exchange with different gifts, and each leaves having gained something new, creating a balance.

For me, this was a crucial key to understanding why porn evoked such strong feelings in me, even when it no longer concerned me personally. Understanding the role of the different genders helped me to release resentment and have compassion for those in the industry. I see every woman as a potential priestess, even goddess, and every man her priest/god counterpart. Substituting porn for personal contact is automatically bypassing the heart connection. Hence, I see it as inherently STS. Thus, I see the women being objectified as a degradation of that which is sacred - the Cosmic Divine female principle.

But the solution isn't to suppress or deny. I think the solution is to focus on that which you want to attract. I think the more the heart chakra is engaged in sexual activity (whether alone or with a partner), then the less appeal porn will have. (But again, I speak only in theory.)

One quote that did strike me however, was this:

31.1 (Ra speaking) The orange and the yellow ray attempts to have sexual intercourse create, firstly, a blockage if only one entity vibrates in this area, thus causing the entity vibrating sexually in this area to have a never-ending appetite for this activity. What these vibratory levels are seeking is green ray activity. There is the possibility of orange or yellow ray energy transfer; this being polarizing towards the negative: one being seen as object rather than otherself; the other seeing itself as plunderer or master of the situation.

Ah, I was looking for that quote! I referred to it earlier. Thanks for posting.

You begin to crave it in much the same way someone might crave a recreational drug. It's a bit more than the physical nerve stimulation, and I believe is the reason why long time porn viewers eventually wish to see new and shocking things. Satisfaction is only transitory and the desire to become satisfied creates the urge for more. Of course this is not a factor in green ray sexuality.

I hadn't thought of that. I never understood the urge for such 'shocking' material. Any drug wears off after awhile and higher doses needed. So that makes perfect sense!

So, part of my approach to changing my past porn patterns in addition to seeking out green ray relations more often has been to treat myself as a recovering junkie.

That sounds like an excellent approach!

I am not, however, attempting to stop masturbation when I feel I need to, as that is something quite different in my opinion, although obviously related.

I just said exactly the same thing. It's an important distinction.

Again, I want to be clear that I have not really made up my mind about pornography being inherently bad (although Monica made some great points), and I am only willing to pass judgment on it so far as it relates to myself.

I apologize if any of my comments come across as judgemental! I don't mean to say it's inherently 'bad' but I do personally see it as STS oriented.

One thing I will be happy to say however is that addiction sucks, and unfortunately such things as pornography addiction can happen if one isn't careful.

Agreed!