Yeah nicely put. First lesson I learned working in community health is to stop trying to make changes and offer service when service is requested (and I think Ra talks about this too). It's easy to get emotionally involved in other people's actions and become helpless because 'I' cannot change them. Then there is a realization that, 'oh what did I just think, I thought I could change other people' or 'oh I have an agenda that I want others to join in' (agendas are not 'bad' they are just part of being human). Having an agenda, however loving and well-intended, becomes a barrier to change and could lead to the opposite effect of what you set out to do. So the way I personally found helpful to frame this is, 'I am available to do what I am able to do, when you would like help'. Focusing on those who request help and trusting others to do what needs be done for own development.
It's really a sorrowful experience to be of service at times, and those are major opportunities for growth as one who provides service to others.
And one more thing. I'm questioning this whole thing about helping others right now. Work seems to get done more efficiently when I drop the whole, 'I want to help you' thing. Just being present and focused on listening or thinking thru things with others is helpful and empowering for the other person, because thru this dialogue they found their own answer.
It's really a sorrowful experience to be of service at times, and those are major opportunities for growth as one who provides service to others.
And one more thing. I'm questioning this whole thing about helping others right now. Work seems to get done more efficiently when I drop the whole, 'I want to help you' thing. Just being present and focused on listening or thinking thru things with others is helpful and empowering for the other person, because thru this dialogue they found their own answer.
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