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[kdsii]

At the risk of delving into new-agey stuff, consider that other people reflect back the energy that you are putting out, which you in turn again receive.
I've stopped saying 'I'm sorry' hardly at all for this reason - I always wondered why I have to apologize so much.
When I stopped apologizing and started phrasing mistakes positively, as in, 'OK, thanks, I appreciate the correction there', this puts out an energy of -appreciation-, or thanks.
Another important thing to notice is that most people look to YOU to set the energy and mood of an interaction. Most people will accept whatever energy you put out, and work from there - as in, THEY are not aware that they have any control over the energy of the interaction taking place.
Meaning? You can slip someone feelings of trustworthiness, or untrustworthiness as well, and this will subconsciously 'tint' the entire interaction with this feeling.
I think of it as like wearing different tinted glasses to see the same world around you.
So, in short, you may be putting out a vibe of distrust, and causing yourself to get this same response from others, which goes around in a nasty cycle.

You're stuck because you're not aware of the power you have over others with your energy - i.e. self-sabotage.
But, the fact that you can influence with feelings of distrust is proof that you can do the opposite - sway others with positive energies.
You must be HOLDING those vibrations to EMIT them. You must FEEL love to emit it, which others will return to you.

What you're saying to the SUBCONSCIOUS when you act/speak is the key -
Most people have no awareness of this level of themselves and therefore have no filter, accepting any/most subconscious information that you give them.