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This is what I hear Oceania is saying - "Why don't you hear what I'm trying to say? Why am I being attacked when all I want to do is talk about something that I'm dealing with right now? I just want to be heard... I'm angry because I feel attacked instead of being heard and being put into a role of a negative 'instigator' of conflict"

I understand you want to discuss and learn because you're in touch with something that is important to your learning right now. You recognized that your anger level was rising and said this: "thanks, you're right, i'm letting it get to me. i'll try to breathe before posting." Awesome.

I think this is what happens. We get angered/activated and let the 'emotion' run our actions. When emotions flood through the lymbic system, it literally takes over the rational part of mind (e.g., frontal lobe). We call it Amygdala hijacking. So on a forum when tempers rise and people start to bicker or whatnot, maybe they could use that method there - take a breath before posting. If we're able to self-sooth (calm ourselves down) and work thru this internally or with others, I don't think we would need as much moderations or guidelines/rules. To take that breath is crucial.