01-17-2013, 03:50 AM
When my father passed away I was in such emotional turmoil, for at least one week I walked around like a zombie, crying and I thought this pain in my heart would never stop.
However I think big part of it was my inability to let go, and also my abandonment issues... like omg I am never going to see him again. Even though I knew it was not the end and he had simply moved on to another adventure.
I read somewhere that clinging like that to a deceased one makes it more difficult for his soul to leave. So it is good to be a bit detached.
Don't worry about that, I would say.
Since my last talk I had with him was about beer, I went to his grave with his favorite beer some time after his death and my mum and I symbolically drank it with him... lol she was a bit scared people might notice us
But it was good we did that and it helped give me closure.
However I think big part of it was my inability to let go, and also my abandonment issues... like omg I am never going to see him again. Even though I knew it was not the end and he had simply moved on to another adventure.
I read somewhere that clinging like that to a deceased one makes it more difficult for his soul to leave. So it is good to be a bit detached.
Don't worry about that, I would say.
Since my last talk I had with him was about beer, I went to his grave with his favorite beer some time after his death and my mum and I symbolically drank it with him... lol she was a bit scared people might notice us
But it was good we did that and it helped give me closure.
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