01-12-2013, 08:47 PM
So far as I'm concerned, good for you. You have the right to define your own life.
If you were doing something that affected her, like constantly leaving the windows open on cold days, or like never locking the front door, or like blowing cigar smoke in her face . . . then I would suggest compromise or move out.
But I think you know what this is about, you say she is "generally negative because she can't control me." I had a mother like that. You also say "In my home . . . . my mom lives with me." That sounds like she's in your home. If you're in her home, then move out.
Many years ago my mother was yelling about something, and I let her go on. When she finished I told her that I forgive her. That shocked her into silence.
"What are you forgiving me for?"
"Think about it."
Got a day of peace out of that.
Another way to go, if possible, would be to sit down and seriously talk. Love me as I am or leave me be.
But, FYI, my mother was an evil lying b**** enemy. So maybe I'm not thinking straight. And also, FYI, at this point in my life (she died about 20 years ago), I understand her, and I forgive her, and I wish her well. I believe she was fulfilling a soul contract that we had agreed upon.
Everything is for our soul growth, yours and hers.
Maybe respond to her upset with humor and a kiss (?), but keep your feet naked.
If you were doing something that affected her, like constantly leaving the windows open on cold days, or like never locking the front door, or like blowing cigar smoke in her face . . . then I would suggest compromise or move out.
But I think you know what this is about, you say she is "generally negative because she can't control me." I had a mother like that. You also say "In my home . . . . my mom lives with me." That sounds like she's in your home. If you're in her home, then move out.
Many years ago my mother was yelling about something, and I let her go on. When she finished I told her that I forgive her. That shocked her into silence.
"What are you forgiving me for?"
"Think about it."
Got a day of peace out of that.
Another way to go, if possible, would be to sit down and seriously talk. Love me as I am or leave me be.
But, FYI, my mother was an evil lying b**** enemy. So maybe I'm not thinking straight. And also, FYI, at this point in my life (she died about 20 years ago), I understand her, and I forgive her, and I wish her well. I believe she was fulfilling a soul contract that we had agreed upon.
Everything is for our soul growth, yours and hers.
Maybe respond to her upset with humor and a kiss (?), but keep your feet naked.