02-17-2010, 12:21 PM
(This post was last modified: 02-17-2010, 12:23 PM by Questioner.)
I think you should talk with your lady about how you felt great about yourself when you were in shape in the Army. Tell her that you miss having all that energy and you miss looking that good. Tell her that when you saw yourself in the salon mirrors, you were really embarrassed about how much you've let yourself slide. Tell her you want to get back in shape for both you and her! Be sure to tell her that you want to have lots of energy and health to enjoy your time with her and not drop dead just as she gets to know you. Tell her you want to no longer run out of pep when there's more time you could enjoy with her!
Tell her that you can't put yourself through boot camp again but you do want to get more disciplined. So you need to make new habits to eat right and exercise right every day. Tell her you realized the biggest challenge is that you both like to eat out so much. Tell her that for the next 3 months you want to eat out less so that you can focus on healthy foods that will get you back into shape.
Then ask if she'd be willing to have you spend less time together in restaurants, and more time in nice places to take a walk. Would she be willing to spend some time with you at the grocery stores and farmers markets as you buy healthy food? Would she like to join you cooking up good food at home, even if it's not fancy? Tell her you need to do these things for your own health, and you hope she'd like to join you because you really love her company!
I bet that if you present it that way, she'll be willing to help you. And probably nicer about it than the drill sergeant!
Tell her that you can't put yourself through boot camp again but you do want to get more disciplined. So you need to make new habits to eat right and exercise right every day. Tell her you realized the biggest challenge is that you both like to eat out so much. Tell her that for the next 3 months you want to eat out less so that you can focus on healthy foods that will get you back into shape.
Then ask if she'd be willing to have you spend less time together in restaurants, and more time in nice places to take a walk. Would she be willing to spend some time with you at the grocery stores and farmers markets as you buy healthy food? Would she like to join you cooking up good food at home, even if it's not fancy? Tell her you need to do these things for your own health, and you hope she'd like to join you because you really love her company!
I bet that if you present it that way, she'll be willing to help you. And probably nicer about it than the drill sergeant!