How do you forgive yourself?

[zenmaster]

Perhaps instead of trying to learn to forgive, you should try and learn not to judge. The absence of judgement leaves the idea of forgiveness null and void, for if you don't judge, what is there to forgive?

Doesn't work that way. Judgement is a conscious action, whereas what may be forgiven tends to be somewhere in the unconscious. Can't really evaluate something which has not been brought to one's attention. And when it is brought to the attention, "forgiveness" (not lack of judgement) is the way to accept.