Dealing with people in love with you

[Monica]

I can feel she is frustrated, there are obviously opportunities I didn't take. Anyway I need to see the nature of the life in this situation, balance myself, let myself flow naturally.

Sometimes people stay in unhappy relationships because they're comfortable and familiar. But if they are offered something better, they'll jump on it.

I definitely wouldn't advise getting involved past friendship unless/until she gets closure on her other relationship first. If she feels there is potential with you, let her end it with her boyfriend first. But you can do a lot in the friendship mode!