Dealing with people in love with you

[Monica]

She wants me to express, I being too shy and thinking too much, not able to open up. I actually had the courage to ask her out out of blue, she said she has a boyfriend. But she still seems to want me to talk to her, I found my stuff rearranged on my desk every Monday morning... plus lots of other gestures... This been going on for two months now since I began working here, should I ask her out again? The thing is in front of the girl I like I found it difficult to talk, the only words I can say is that three words, anything else sounds disgenuine to me.

You may find it easier to talk to her if you don't think of her as a potential girlfriend. She is currently taken anyway! Just get to know her as a friend.

Then, allow it to develop naturally. If she decides you are a better match than her current boyfriend, she'll take action.

Better to get to know her now - without any expectations - than to hold back out of shyness, and then later find out it's too late because she's married.

She's not married yet, so there's nothing wrong with letting her know you are available. It's a delicate situation because you do want to be respectful that she's in a relationship, but...it's a relationship, not a marriage. I suggest talk to her as a friend and let whatever develops from that, do so naturally. She clearly is interested in you, at least in some way!