11-04-2012, 05:40 AM
This may have already been said but it could help is to give in to your what your negative emotions are saying.
Then to see your situation (and what you think about that person) in the context of receiving no recognition or appreciation or recompense for your hurt and pain and abandonment, violation, etc.
Of course, before all of this, you need to identify the theme of your feelings in terms of what you feel is happening/being done to you.
Then, the version/condition of yourself that this situation is bringing to you will become clear. The framing that I spoke about above is a way of removing the shoulds/supposed tos/hopes, etc and leaving the violated or hurt self bare.
For me, it came down to insignificance... That insignificance is something to be accepted as some portion or version of myself. It seems I still have some ways to go in accepting insignificant me, and more importantly giving life to it (making it a part of life) I do still have moments when the hurt, disappointment and let down strikes, but the emotion has a different quality to it now, those unfortunate emotions are no longer as bewildering.
And...most importantly, those emotions are no longer associated with the person that hurt me as much anymore. I don't feel that it's a must to address it with that person anymore.
Then to see your situation (and what you think about that person) in the context of receiving no recognition or appreciation or recompense for your hurt and pain and abandonment, violation, etc.
Of course, before all of this, you need to identify the theme of your feelings in terms of what you feel is happening/being done to you.
Then, the version/condition of yourself that this situation is bringing to you will become clear. The framing that I spoke about above is a way of removing the shoulds/supposed tos/hopes, etc and leaving the violated or hurt self bare.
For me, it came down to insignificance... That insignificance is something to be accepted as some portion or version of myself. It seems I still have some ways to go in accepting insignificant me, and more importantly giving life to it (making it a part of life) I do still have moments when the hurt, disappointment and let down strikes, but the emotion has a different quality to it now, those unfortunate emotions are no longer as bewildering.
And...most importantly, those emotions are no longer associated with the person that hurt me as much anymore. I don't feel that it's a must to address it with that person anymore.