*trigger* beware need advice

[Charles]

Reacting to my calling forgiveness an entirely selfish act, Monica said:

I'd have to disagree with this part. I can see how, if someone 'forgives' only to heal themselves, it could be a selfish act. Though we certainly wouldn't want to judge them for it, since they are doing what they must, to survive and heal.

But, is it really forgiveness, in that case? I think not. I think that, in order to truly break the bonds of karma, there must be acceptance, love, and genuine compassion for the abuser. It is this that would be classified as true forgiveness, from a spiritual perspective, and it is an STO act, which has the fringe benefit of healing the forgiver as well.

I guess I didn't say that well, and I should remove the word "entirely."

For me this quest of forgiving was entirely for me, for my sanity, and for my freedom.

But then this forgiving and understanding, morphed into love. Easily and naturally, the forgiven tyrant is now loved. I talk with That One on her behalf, and I talk with her, to encourage her onto her path of soul growth. I send her light and love, to more easily see that path, she has a very long journey ahead of her.

If this was a soul contract, then she is likely a member of my soul group, and that means that I will see her again.

But I have made it clear, to myself, and to her, and to That One, that I'm (in my current 3D mind) only willing to live a life with her After she has learned simple human decency, and not one moment before. My sanity has to remain my priority.

And it is for the sake of sanity, that I feel that lightworker may be better off without confrontation. And it is for the sake of clarity, that I also must tell her that I don't know what I'm talking about.