*trigger* beware need advice

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That might be "just an observation," but it's a good one, and sounds right to me.

Strangely, a lot of experts recommend the opposite course. (I'm not saying they're right! I have no clue.)

Lightworker did say, " That would be outwardly displaying hate & I am very much against that. I usually regret when I act on negativity." Already made up mind about the consequences of confrontation.

What is the intent of confronting grandfather?

When confrontation is a reaction to one's anger or hatred, then it could spiritually and psychologically and socially be harmful.

When confrontation is intended for healing (like getting family members to become more open about resolving problems/trauma), it could be a beautiful process of multigenerational healing.

βαθμιαίος said:

Patterns of abuse sometimes run in families. It's possible that your parents and/or grandfather were also abused

And families pretty much repeat patterns of how problems, like sexual abuse, are handled, especially when there is multigenerational occurrences of sexual trauma.