How terribly sad this is that you would think expressing "pain" is inappropriate. I understand why you would think it and I may do so as well when put in you're shoes, but its.. "wrong" 
lightworker has been hurt not you
I agree with Siren and would add only you will know what you need to do.
Having not had the experience that you describe, I find it very difficult to answer. I know not what you have experienced/felt, only you do.
I can relate with a drunk of a father during childhood the most. He terrorized the family with hes behavior, the fear of pain was constant when he was drunk. He has never laid a hand on me but it felt like he could at any time. Both to my mom and me. We were dependent on him by the apartment we were in and monetarily. He did not shy away to use that fact against my mum many times. With "time" I got to understand why she cry-d.
I have hated/despised my father more than once to the point of never wanting to see him again. He has stopped drinking so much but still does it and is the same as he was "then". He was so 5 days a go for reference.
Do I hate him? Yes I do.. if I so choose. Do I love him? No I don't... If I do not want to.
I accept him as he is/I am, like any man.. a fool
He is playing a part like we all are, and it is not for me to judge their chosen road. I can be anything I choose to be and I have chosen what I feel is love. I choose to love him in my own way and forgetting that is what invites confusion
Love and light my friend, you're truth is there to see, do what you feel is right.
lightworker has been hurt not you
I agree with Siren and would add only you will know what you need to do.
(11-01-2012, 08:08 PM)lightworker Wrote: What would you do? Would you let him rot? Or would you take possibly the last opportunity you may have to confront him?
Having not had the experience that you describe, I find it very difficult to answer. I know not what you have experienced/felt, only you do.
I can relate with a drunk of a father during childhood the most. He terrorized the family with hes behavior, the fear of pain was constant when he was drunk. He has never laid a hand on me but it felt like he could at any time. Both to my mom and me. We were dependent on him by the apartment we were in and monetarily. He did not shy away to use that fact against my mum many times. With "time" I got to understand why she cry-d.
I have hated/despised my father more than once to the point of never wanting to see him again. He has stopped drinking so much but still does it and is the same as he was "then". He was so 5 days a go for reference.
Do I hate him? Yes I do.. if I so choose. Do I love him? No I don't... If I do not want to.
I accept him as he is/I am, like any man.. a fool
He is playing a part like we all are, and it is not for me to judge their chosen road. I can be anything I choose to be and I have chosen what I feel is love. I choose to love him in my own way and forgetting that is what invites confusion
Love and light
my friend, you're truth is there to see, do what you feel is right.
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