*trigger* beware need advice

[Turtle]

Sorry in advance if this is inappropriate, but I feel that the situation has a huge impact on who I am & my work here. I'm going to keep this as simple as possible.

My grandfather molested me throughout my childhood. I also found out later on he did it to my sister too. I never had the courage to tell my parents -- until I was a teenager. They did nothing about it. NOTHING. I guess they never really knew what to do about something that happened so long ago.

So my dad tells me the other day that my grandfather is dying in the hospital. I am having a hard time with this. I have never confronted my grandfather about it & neither did my parents. He probably thinks I have no recollection of it. Part of me wants to let him just die. And the other part of me feels like I need to send him a letter or do ANYTHING just to let him know he was wrong, and that I remember VIVIDLY what he did (many, many times)

What would you do? Would you let him rot? Or would you take possibly the last opportunity you may have to confront him?

I feel like I want to confront him but at the same time - That is not an act of love. That would be outwardly displaying hate & I am very much against that. I usually regret when I act on negativity. I am just so deeply confused - as it has been with me literally as long as I can remember..

I'd suggest...start by imagining as vividly as you can, in an appropriate place and time when you can focus, what it would be like to visit or call him, and how the interaction would take place. You'll probably have a much clearer understanding on whether or not you feel it is right to act in one way or another on this.