Singles / Dating

[Melissa]

That's a lovely introduction Marjorie, welcome.

[Conifer16]

I can't remember if I've already posted in this thread or not. If not, Hi :-) I'm a totally amazing :-P 19yr old male living on the west coast of the U.S.

Right now I am mainly just wanting to have people to talk to(again) about mostly things the mainstream finds "weird". Such as TLOO, atlantis, historical mysteries, life and its meaning, what the heck is up with reality, UFO's, etc. All the good stuff :-) But should I make a "true connection" with someone living nearby, I shan't complain. :-) I used to frequent this forum a lot, but wandered(hehe) away from it for a while. But I might be back now. Maybe.

See ya around(possibly) :-)
Conifer(19 now, still haven't gotten around to getting it updated)

[Edit]
Would you look at that, I have posted in this thread before. Way back eons ago when I was 17. Goodness my posts make me cringe sometimes. lol

[MarjorieMorningstar]

That's a lovely introduction Marjorie, welcome.

Thank you Melissa...I am happy to be here!

[Hotsizzle77]

I already have a girlfriend but I was just curious, are there any girls here between the ages of 20-30?

[Phoenix]

I already have a girlfriend but I was just curious, are there any girls here between the ages of 20-30?

There doesn't seem to be many girls on bring4th. Those active at this moment now are about 7 guys. I think the last girl I actually interacted with here was Melissa and Reeay. And Ankh dropped in for a post a bit back. I can name the guys though quite a lot easier. (Edit, isis as well, just went round checking genders.)

I was thinking of bringing up this in the 'cognitive distortions' thread but ended up saying it here.

[Hotsizzle77]

Wow ok thank you!

[isis]

[removed]

[reeay]

I'm out of that age range lol

[Melissa]

Me too, but I'm also very curious so why are you asking?

[Hotsizzle77]

I was josh curious! lol

[Rhayader]

Josh curious?? A freudian slip perhaps...

[Horuseus]

I was josh curious! lol

Better go hide in a cave for a while pal, they're onto you.

[Melissa]

I was josh curious! lol

Left ear ringing, you're lying!

[vervex]

*waves hand* I'm one of those ladies fitting in the 20-30 category, 25 to be exact, although I'm not as active as the others mentioned; I usually prefer reading

[Realtime]

I am 24 years old and male.

[Billy]

21, all man, at the peak of my powers.

[BlatzAdict]

31 , I'm getting old :\ Not sure how I feel about it, except this ain't my first rodeo.


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[daniel90]

Im not sure if im looking to date but just for LOO enthusiasts for group meetings in NYC !!!! Just turned 24.

[Diana]

Well, I couldn't sleep tonight and after tossing and turning in bed, gave up trying. So I went to my computer like a paper clip to a magnet, as often happens. I saw this thread at the top of B4's "today" list, and here I am.

I read it all and have been LMAO. Not at everything of course. Maybe I'm just tired, but there was a lot of funny stuff here.

Now to the serious part.

I don't see anything wrong with reaching out to, searching for, making lists about, or simply yearning for a partner, soul mate, friend/lover. I also think it's fine and okay to have wild, crazy, fleeting sexual encounters.

But I would make this suggestion: concentrate on yourself and becoming the person you want to be. The energy you create by doing this will draw that amazing person to you. If you are putting out energy of "need," you will most likely attract someone with a reciprocal need. But if you feel whole, or at least comfortable and confident with who you are and what you are doing, and you aren't putting out vibes of need/yearning, you will be "open" to receiving a person who will compliment you rather than fulfill you.

The other thing is to be open-minded when it comes to who might make a good partner. Unplug from the media if you can. Hollywood and advertising have so warped our self-images and our ideas of what is attractive, it's insane. If a woman isn't airbrushed perfect, anorexic, and have a boob job, she just doesn't make the cut in this society. If you think you aren't affected by this, think again. It's insidious.

How many times have you heard that women want men who can cry and who express their feelings? But then, when the men do, the women run the other way. These women are simply reacting to the media and saying or thinking what is popular.

Try not to be too narrow in your thinking. There's nothing wrong with visualizing a mate, but if you are rigid about 25 to 30, you might be blocking that 35-year-old you're meant to hook up with. If you say you like "beautiful," question that. What is beauty? Does a man have to be tall, for instance? Why?

Here's my story:

I have had a few relationships and dated a lot. I had a lot of fun and experienced great catalyst while in relationship. I got to the point though, where I was focused more on my work and my own growth. During this time, I lost interest in the whole dating/relationship thing.

After a time, a channeled entity told me (last year) that I was going to meet someone. I didn't believe it, nor did I want it. "He" asked me to make a list (for fun) of what I might possibly want in a man. I didn't get very far making that list because I just wasn't interested.

A couple of months later I did meet someone. But he was not someone I would have considered dating because he was a lot younger than me. We hit it off though, talking each other's ears off for 3-4 hours while my family waited for me. We had gone to a dance exhibition and he was the MC and dance teacher. I lived in another city. But we got back together for dinner and conversation, and though I was slow to come around to it, we ended up in a wonderful relationship.

This was a good lesson in not "judging the package."

It can be lonely here in a 3D world with so many sleeping people. I wish everyone here the best in finding a soul mate (a mate for the soul as well as the person).

[Realtime]

Well, I couldn't sleep tonight and after tossing and turning in bed, gave up trying. So I went to my computer like a paper clip to a magnet, as often happens. I saw this thread at the top of B4's "today" list, and here I am.

Yes, daniel90 bumped it up yesterday.

The other thing is to be open-minded when it comes to who might make a good partner. Unplug from the media if you can.

Good point.

[Matt1]

i have never been in a relasonship before which kinda sucks a little. I often feel that i a missing out on a great life experience.

[Plenum]

Here's my story:

I have had a few relationships and dated a lot. I had a lot of fun and experienced great catalyst while in relationship. I got to the point though, where I was focused more on my work and my own growth. During this time, I lost interest in the whole dating/relationship thing.

After a time, a channeled entity told me (last year) that I was going to meet someone. I didn't believe it, nor did I want it. "He" asked me to make a list (for fun) of what I might possibly want in a man. I didn't get very far making that list because I just wasn't interested.

A couple of months later I did meet someone. But he was not someone I would have considered dating because he was a lot younger than me. We hit it off though, talking each other's ears off for 3-4 hours while my family waited for me. We had gone to a dance exhibition and he was the MC and dance teacher. I lived in another city. But we got back together for dinner and conversation, and though I was slow to come around to it, we ended up in a wonderful relationship. In fact, I really fell in love for the first time.

This was a good lesson in not "judging the package."

thanks for sharing your experience Diana! it was a great read!

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It can be lonely here in a 3D world with so many sleeping people. I wish everyone here the best in finding a soul mate (a mate for the soul as well as the person).

agreed. I don't think any of us planned to navigate this earthly experience alone ... we set up many contacts, and when the time is right, we meet the right people to keep us moving forward on our journey, using the shared experiences we have with each other in the highest and best way.

this is not just for 'romantic relationships', but for all the types of connections (deep friendships too!) that enter our space.

[Diana]

I don't think any of us planned to navigate this earthly experience alone ... we set up many contacts, and when the time is right, we meet the right people to keep us moving forward on our journey, using the shared experiences we have with each other in the highest and best way.

this is not just for 'romantic relationships', but for all the types of connections (deep friendships too!) that enter our space.

Well said Plenum.

[Billy]

I've realised that I've created this view of women as being superior to me. I've been putting them up on this pedestal and have feelings of unworthiness around them. Does anyone know where this comes from and how to correct it?

[Jade]

One possibility is that society tells you that your goal is to "get the girl", but first you need to buy some x, y, and z, and then maybe you'll be good enough. It's a trap created by advertising to keep men spending money. Most movies, tv shows, video games, etc, carry this form of story, where a man must go through trial and tribulation, and then, ONLY then, is the girl ready for him to take her. You must always be better, and better can be bought. You can absolutely learn to distance yourself from these beliefs - you don't have to present yourself in any specific way to be accepted.

[Realtime]

Indeed.

[Plenum]

anyone tried rsvp?

but I guess that's just an aussie dating site

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oh, and just in case you are trying some dating sites, eharmony is a scam. Once you get to the page with the payment plan options you get an idea of how deceptive they are. Their aim is to extract ~200$ from you via any means necessary. They use all kinds of trickery to differentiate the plans on offer, but they all end up being a $200 committment, no matter how you dice it. Trickery in your bare face.

plenty of free options; especially if you happen to be American.

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It has come to my attention that some Bring4th members are single and looking for their soulmate...or someone who is into the Law of One. So I thought I'd start a thread where singles can connect! Sort of a...Bring4th online dating service!

I think verv and Adonai are the only success story to speak of.

[Realtime]

Stay away from dating sites by all means—just as a heuristic approach.

[tsh]

Hi Folks,
My name is John, I'm 57 years old and I now find myself in a small city in the middle of Brazil, that is ripe with catalyst for growth. I am finding it very difficult to find a potential mate here, partly because of language and partly because of their society here. Everyone seems to be looking for some rich guy to rescue them from their plight. I am not that guy. I am: Awake, loving, forgiving, understanding, nonjudgmental, but not rich.
I really love something I saw on Facebook the other day: "Some people are so poor that all they have is money" I believe this situation I'm in is a pre- incarnation agreement that I made. I am learning the lesson well. Still I seek the sweetness of sharing life and lessons with someone.
My only requirement is that she is awake! Everything else is just details, or catalyst for more acceptance.
Love and Blessings to All
may the force be with you!



I like your sincerity.
my best wishes
John

[Ankh]

It has come to my attention that some Bring4th members are single and looking for their soulmate...or someone who is into the Law of One. So I thought I'd start a thread where singles can connect! Sort of a...Bring4th online dating service!

I think verv and Adonai are the only success story to speak of.

Actually I know another couple, but they are uncomfortable to share this information here, so I won't mention their names. They are still members here, but not active. Also, it is through Bring4th they've met. And they've been together longer than vervex and A1. Now you guys know! So, keep dating and seeking here too!