Accepting guidance and the Higher Self

[Ashim]

Dear friends if my words do not ring true for you brush them aside and continue on your own path.
The following contains information and guidance regarding the Ascension Process and is not meant to be ‘followed’ in any way unless the content helps you to help yourself towards your own personal spiritual development. The only guidance you should follow is your own. Please bear this in mind if you decide to read.


There are ‘pathways’ and ‘stepping stones’ that can be followed to gain spiritual enlightenment. I wish to share my views on this


Ra told us that we are under the illusion of separation. We do not see ourselves as all being one. This is the first part of the Veil to be lifted.
The first step is one of self discovery that you are not just ‘you’.
When the adept chooses of his/her own free will to follow this pathway a dialogue is initiated with the Higher Self. The higher self presence must be desired. You must want to reach out to your soul.

There must be preparation before the Calling is made. This has to do with learning to focus intent. One must understand that all ‘words’ thought are real. They have an infinite existence in time/space.

Embracing this concept the adept will set about ‘living’ this principle on a day to day basis. The steps have a metaphysical component as well as a 3D realisation.

If you notice a ‘dark’ thought and a low vibration try to catch that thought in ‘mid air’, hold it and ponder as to the antithesis. Search your soul for the corresponding positive thought and ‘cancel out’ the negative charge. This is healing of the Self.
You are a microcosm of the Polarity Integration process happening in all of the Creation.
To polarise towards Source, to the Love/Light of the one Infinite Creator the goals of this density must be achieved.

They are:

Love yourself first.
Love all others.
Realise there are no ‘others’

Let’s get back to the Calling.

The quality of the Calling or the ‘volume’, for want of a better term, can be aided by using rituals as a means of directing and focussing intent.

The room you chose to meditate in should be ‘cleansed’ and blessed. This will lighten the vibration of your dwelling increasing your frequency.

If you use crystals or have an altar arrange your ‘tools’.
If not you can use anything of personal spiritual meaning to you.
It could be a bible, a book, anything that reminds you of high spirituality.
I usually take precautions not to be disturbed for a period of time and make sure the ‘set and setting’ are of the highest vibration.
You may wish to wear a special item of clothing or robe for this type of work.

The exact nature of the Calling is your own personal matter.
It could be “please let me know that you are there” or something similar.

The Calling is made to the entities personal guides, the Higher Self and to the Creator himself.

You must be quiet for the voice of the Higher Self can be a whisper at first.

The answer will come and you shall have made a ‘leap of faith’.


Love & Light

[Ali Quadir]

Great suggestions.. I'd like to add that from my personal experience, coming into contact with the higher self was more a matter of accepting that he's there, accepting that he's been paying attention to you all your life. And realizing that it has an agenda that does not follow the ego's agenda. It's not your personal genie in a bottle. In spite of this it is very willing to engage in playful interaction. And offer guidance. This is a team member, a brother or sister who knows you more intimately than you know yourself, there is no need for reverence or submission. You don't need to be nice to it.

Everyone has his own steps to take. My suggestion would be simply to say "Hi, I know you hear me bro, I want a conscious interaction with you." Then talk, regularly ask questions look for answers, discuss the answers as if this is truly a brother working shoulder to shoulder with you. You will start receiving subtle signals, feelings and synchronous events. When they do happen, acknowledge them.

The trick is communication. Talk talk talk, communicate and listen! Don't mind overdoing it, send jokes, insights and opinions his way. This is a natural communication line that's very rusty if you've never used it, you need to clean it out by using it. At first you will doubt every bit of feedback you get. And nothing is going to fix that, apart from experience. The more you talk, the sooner you'll have it.

To summarize the summary of the summary....
Just do it.

[Ashim]

I didn't want my message to come over like a 'sermon'.
Ali, I love your light hearted nature!
I will say as much.
I was a 'priest' in another 'life'.
This probably explains the 'tone' of what I convey.
You are all much loved.

Love & Light

[Ali Quadir]

I didn't want my message to come over like a 'sermon'.

It was not taken as such Ashim, I can find no fault in your words. I just wanted to add my own

Ali, I love your light hearted nature!

And I love the vigor with which you act to support your brothers and sisters on their path!

I will say as much.
I was a 'priest' in another 'life'.

I expect we have a bunch of people who were priests monks and or initiates in past lives.. Those archetypes are common in spiritual circles. I was a monk.. I swept the garden path. It was my sacred duty.. It was the most important role in the monastery. Even the Abbot stepped aside to allow me to do my work.

This probably explains the 'tone' of what I convey.
You are all much loved.

No harm done as far as I am concerned Ashim... You must decide and act on who you want to be. If there is harm, then I make the same mistakes I recognize much of myself in you. The important thing is to keep looking at ourselves and improving what worries us. All of us are learning. And we all do this in our own ways. There is no shame in not being perfect. There is only shame in not intending to improve.

Namaste
You are loved.

[Eddie]

You can download a wonderful inspiritational (and instructional) message about Ascension, by clicking on this link:

Oneness

What Rasha (read, here, by Glenn Pendleton) describes in this material, is what is happening to me right now.

I feel so good, so happy, so centered. We are truly blessed to be here.

[Ashim]

Thanks for your service Eddie!

Love & Light

[Lavazza]

Thank you gentlemen for this thread and responses. I have recently been experiencing some bumps and turmoil in my personal life, conflicts with others and sometimes conflicts with myself, in addition to general confusion about how to best go about things... I have at times mentally paused to ask for help, but I always feel vague as to who I am actually calling out to. I have asked Q'uo at times for metaphysical support, but I do not feel it quite often. I suspect because they are so free-will supporting, often times they simply cannot meddle very much in my development.

Naturally my higher self is the one I need to be in touch with in these times. But I do not know my higher self, or my personal guides. Ali, you list some great suggestions, do you have any others? I would very much like to know more about my higher self (I realize it is myself in the future of course, but for now it makes more sense to work with dualism). Carla knows her higher self as "Holly", maybe finding a name for him would help me to connect more easily?

Ashim, do you think it's best to catch a negative thought while it's happening, or to let it play itself out and then reflect on it after the fact? I have many times found myself in an argument, feeling negative feelings and consciously realized what was happening while it was happening. But I have rarely if ever been able to cease the negativity in the moment, and when I have it has been an uncomfortable almost suppressive feeling. Do you know what I mean? It seems easier and more natural to find the opposite feeling afterwards, but perhaps I am missing the point of the exercise...?

[Ashim]

Ashim, do you think it's best to catch a negative thought while it's happening, or to let it play itself out and then reflect on it after the fact? I have many times found myself in an argument, feeling negative feelings and consciously realized what was happening while it was happening. But I have rarely if ever been able to cease the negativity in the moment, and when I have it has been an uncomfortable almost suppressive feeling. Do you know what I mean? It seems easier and more natural to find the opposite feeling afterwards, but perhaps I am missing the point of the exercise...?

Yes, catch it in mid flight. Try to 'see' yourself acting on Shakespears 'stage of life'. It's quite amusing to watch catalyst at work 'from the outside'.

Integration of negative polarity requires that you 'feel' the negativity. this can be unconfortable, but like going to the dentist, it's worth in in the long term.
This is work you can do now, if you feel ready, or later. The pace of this type of self healing is dictated only by you.

The goal being to really SEE the Love/Light in the moment.
Remember, the Higher Self knows this stuff well and will help you on your chosen path.
Some of the 'scenarios' I was provided with were very amusing from a higher density perspective. Our Creator has a great sense of humor.

Love & Light

p.s I very much recommend listening to Eddies link. Ra-Sha is very close to me and has given much support. Thank you.

[Pablísimo]

I too would like to add my thanks for starting this thread.

Ashim, I admit sometimes I have a hard time following your train of thought, but your opening post was very lucid and helpful to me. I found the Higher Self concept somewhat confusing, but your write-up of opening to Oneness as a first step to begin the Dialogue rang true.

I am also grateful for the suggestions from Ali. I am not in the habit of speaking with my Higher Self and don't really know how to go about it. I am in the habit of speaking to the Creator in a personal way, but it never occurred to try it with my Higher Self. Perhaps it's because I'm not really sure whether I am actually a Wanderer, despite my resonance with LOO and my deep commitment to spiritual seeking. Because of that, maybe part of me feels that I don't yet have a 6th density manifestation looking back at me but of course we must all have a Higher Self, given the illusion that is Time.

If you notice a ‘dark’ thought and a low vibration try to catch that thought in ‘mid air’, hold it and ponder as to the antithesis. Search your soul for the corresponding positive thought and ‘cancel out’ the negative charge. This is healing of the Self.

Ashim, do you think it's best to catch a negative thought while it's happening, or to let it play itself out and then reflect on it after the fact? I have many times found myself in an argument, feeling negative feelings and consciously realized what was happening while it was happening. But I have rarely if ever been able to cease the negativity in the moment, and when I have it has been an uncomfortable almost suppressive feeling. Do you know what I mean? It seems easier and more natural to find the opposite feeling afterwards, but perhaps I am missing the point of the exercise...?

Yes, catch it in mid flight. Try to 'see' yourself acting on Shakespears 'stage of life'. It's quite amusing to watch catalyst at work 'from the outside'.

I wanted to quote the above thread because I understand the concept of feeling a negative thought's antithesis and canceling it out. I have no trouble with this in mediation or contemplation when all is still. However, Lavazza could have been speaking for me just then, because I can never seem to be able to do this while in a disagreement with an Other-Self. I have felt the exact same uncomfortable feeling when I try to suppress my reaction to negativity in the moment. Could you guys please elaborate more on how to do this? And is contact with the Higher Self the solution to the problem?

Here's a quick example: I have a co-worker who I frequently am troubled by. I feel great compassion and love for her -- she appears to be enslaved by her uncontrollable emotions. One moment she is nice, joyful, and buoyant, and the next she is aggressive and angry. I can tell she is caught between two polarity paths. She is a project manager. Some days she embraces teamwork and cooperation, and I see a real desire to serve our customer and be kind to our employees. At other times, she becomes extremely abusive and controlling, starting arguments, belittling the employees, making petty insults, and trying to manipulate the customer and control the employees by force. It's almost like she's two different people, depending on the way the wind blows. But I see it for what I believe it truly is -- polarity confusion, the sinkhole of indifference. It is up to her to choose to Serve others or Serve herself, and I don't think she's decided yet.

No matter how cruel or unfair she is to me and others, I can always find forgiveness in my heart for her, combined with sadness and compassion that she lives in such a confused state. However, that is only AFTER the fact. When she is being unkind in the moment, I just cannot seem to tune in to those understanding, loving vibrations that come so easily to me later. I have tried to suppress my negative reactions, but I often feel worse after doing so. I have also tried to find a balance and set firm boundaries of respect while still being kind, but it is challenging for me to not cross that line between drawing my boundaries and being spiteful in return. I actually watch myself feeling unkind feelings of separation and anger when she is being cruel, and it is even worse when she directs it at other people. I truly, truly wish I could find a better way to harmonize IN THE MOMENT and hopefully diffuse the situation. This is actually a hot topic for me, since this is only one example of many such situations that I have been struggling to deal with positively.

I could really use some more advice on this topic of how to cancel out the negativity and harmonize it. I feel somehow intuitively that more direct contact with my Higher Self would help me with this issue but I can't exactly explain why.

If you guys have any more to add, I would be honored to hear your words.

Love to all

[Namaste]

Ashim, do you think it's best to catch a negative thought while it's happening, or to let it play itself out and then reflect on it after the fact? I have many times found myself in an argument, feeling negative feelings and consciously realized what was happening while it was happening. But I have rarely if ever been able to cease the negativity in the moment, and when I have it has been an uncomfortable almost suppressive feeling. Do you know what I mean? It seems easier and more natural to find the opposite feeling afterwards, but perhaps I am missing the point of the exercise...?

Hi Lavazza,

Ra states that suppressing the emotion is depolarizing, and is best avoided. It's much more balancing, as you stated, to let the emotion flow - for you to experience the catalyst as it was intended - and then contemplate the thought/reaction. Think of why the thought occurred, what button did it press? What issue do you have that caused the emotional response? Do this with the best intention - realize that your searching is positive and for personal/spiritual growth.

Once you do this reflection exercise a few times, you'll start to naturally lessen the emotional response before it surfaces. After a short while, and persistence, it will not surface at all. That is the indicator that you have brought more balance to that aspect of your consciousness. That is the entire reason you are experiencing the situation - it needs work. Don't beat yourself up about it either, we all have lessons to learn.

Instead, love yourself for being human, and feel gratitude for the opportunity for spiritual growth that is being presented to you.

On the subject, there is a fantastic book called Spiritual Growth by Sanaya Roman. She channels an entity named Orin, and his teachings are wonderful. Highly recommended.

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No matter how cruel or unfair she is to me and others, I can always find forgiveness in my heart for her, combined with sadness and compassion that she lives in such a confused state. However, that is only AFTER the fact. When she is being unkind in the moment, I just cannot seem to tune in to those understanding, loving vibrations that come so easily to me later. I have tried to suppress my negative reactions, but I often feel worse after doing so. I have also tried to find a balance and set firm boundaries of respect while still being kind, but it is challenging for me to not cross that line between drawing my boundaries and being spiteful in return. I actually watch myself feeling unkind feelings of separation and anger when she is being cruel, and it is even worse when she directs it at other people. I truly, truly wish I could find a better way to harmonize IN THE MOMENT and hopefully diffuse the situation. This is actually a hot topic for me, since this is only one example of many such situations that I have been struggling to deal with positively.

I could really use some more advice on this topic of how to cancel out the negativity and harmonize it. I feel somehow intuitively that more direct contact with my Higher Self would help me with this issue but I can't exactly explain why.

If you guys have any more to add, I would be honored to hear your words.

Love to all

The above post may be of use to you, and some additional thoughts...

There are two mantras that has been invaluable to me as to keep consciousness in the green ray when dealing with people acting from a negative perspective.

"They are just trying to be happy"

&

"I do not know her life experience"

Acting in a negative manner can stem from many reasons. Two of the usual suspects in the office however are: 1) they feel out of control, i.e. fear, which makes them act unconsciously/selfishly and 2) it's the best/only way they know how to react.

If it's because of 1, you can look through the eyes of compassion and realise that the person is a bit lost and is having difficulty finding themselves. Move your mind from the context of work, and see the bigger picture of their entire life experience. The person is trying to make themselves happy, but having trouble doing so, which is causing moments of negativity at work.

If it's 2, this may be related to the environment and life of the person as they matured. For example, if a child is yelled at for 'doing something wrong' (which is, doing something in the manner that someone else would prefer you to do it, which is always going to cause friction), that child is going to learn from the parent, and assume that shouting is the best way to deal with problems.

Either way, it's not for us to judge that reaction, as we're not privy to the person in the entire context of their catalysts and experiences.

That doesn't mean we look on and think "poor lost soul", as that is more akin to pity than compassion, and lowers your vibrational level. We look on and realise that that person is of infinite worth, and is having problems dealing with the current situation.

If you decide to speak to her about it, and I'm sure it's crossed your mind, as you may feel the STO impulse to help both her and the people she is mentally abusing, have a think about this...

Abraham (Law fo Attraction) mentions that lowering ones vibrational level (emotion) to match that of the other, is doing a dis-service to the Self, as your greatest gift is to act from as high a vibrational place as you can. Matching that person on the same level, and beating the drum about whatever they are upset about, only adds to their discontent.

There is also a fine, and tricky, line with regard to service to others, and free will. I.e. telling the person that they are upsetting others. It can be done, as that's speaking YOUR truth, which is commendable. If you feel the impulse to do so, do your best to do it with tact. Speak honestly,
and remember, as the Buddhists say, giving metta (loving kindness) to someone can also include pointing their own actions out to themselves in a larger context of others.

For example, "I've noticed XYZ has been demotivated since you last spoke, perhaps you could use a softer approach in the future, as it could lower productivity in the team". I use the term productivity as if she is business orientated (more so than people orientated), it may resonate with her more, than if using a personal comment like 'happiness levels'. Either way, the hopeful outcome would be the better treatment of staff. You may be surprised with the response, many people are 'unaware' of their actions, and having it brought to light can cause a sudden reflection, and openness. It can also annoy them, depending on how much they are driven by their ego. From what you said, if she has a kind side, you can pick the time right and speak to that aspect of her personality.

Only you can judge the language and approach, so contemplate it for a while. Thats if you feel the need of course!

L&L

[Pablísimo]

Acting in a negative manner can stem from many reasons. Two of the usual suspects in the office however are: 1) they feel out of control, i.e. fear, which makes them act unconsciously/selfishly and 2) it's the best/only way they know how to react.

If it's because of 1, you can look through the eyes of compassion and realise that the person is a bit lost and is having difficulty finding themselves. Move your mind from the context of work, and see the bigger picture of their entire life experience. The person is trying to make themselves happy, but having trouble doing so, which is causing moments of negativity at work.

Namaste, Namaste! Thanks for the input, I appreciate your advice. My guess is that it's cause #1 with her for the most part, with a small dose of #2 mixed in since I have seen her handle issues in different ways.. As I see it, a project manager can handle the task at hand in one of two ways: Either by providing leadership while relying on the teamwork and trust of the group to get the job done, or else in a STS manner where you control each member and every aspect of the project in minute detail.

But ultimately, I'm not actually having trouble seeing the bigger picture, forgiving her, or feeling love and compassion. She's on her own 3rd density path and is part of the One that is all. And I do understand why she is the way that she is. I have a little routine each morning when I first awaken (But before I move) where I try to send love to all of Creation. First generally, and then I go through the specific people I am likely to interact with. I always spend extra time beaming her love.

While I certainly would like her behavior to change, and your suggestions were very good, I don't really feel like she would be receptive to my words. Also, I am the kind of person that is usually quiet, preferring to lead by example and let my own light shine rather than directly confront the darkness in others. I am working on myself actively but usually only teach others passively.

The real issue I was trying to get at is the difficulty I have in dealing with my own negative thoughts about her DURING one of these arguments while she is being abusive to others. Almost always, with any conflict, once a few minutes have passed where I can reflect, I always remember the bigger picture and can forgive in an instant. I am very much at peace with Other-selves in general. However, what I'd really like to be able to do is avoid the negative thoughts arising in the first place in response to a person acting negatively. If avoidance is not possible, then I'd like to be able to more quickly transmute the thought by feeling its antithises, much as a I do in later reflection. For some reason, though I just can't seem to access that higher understanding in the heat of the moment. 5 minutes later, no problem, it's just hard for me to do while the catalyst is flying. I thought Lavazza was describing a similar struggle, and something about Ashim's mention of the dialogue with the Higher Self moved me, so I thought I'd chime in and ask for further elaboration.

Again, thank you much for your thoughts, I certainly do appreciate you taking the time out of your day to share. One thing you did give me to contemplate further was considering the line between compassion and pity. While I believe most of the time my compassion for her is based on love and an understanding of the challenges of this density, at times perhaps it does cross the line into pity, which is not really my intent. I appreciate you providing me that bit of reflection.

Love to all.

[Ashim]

I share these 'symptoms' in my own personal situation. I am troubled by 'bursts' of short term anger sparked off by my partner providing the catalyst. The healing is instant but the body seems to keep reacting to the stimulus.
One of my life lessons was to learn to become a more patient Soul. My journey is far from over.

Love & Light

[Lavazza]

For some reason, though I just can't seem to access that higher understanding in the heat of the moment. 5 minutes later, no problem, it's just hard for me to do while the catalyst is flying

Yup, this is me exactly in many circumstances. I don't hold out much hope to actually eliminate my emotional reactions in the midst of a confrontation / argument, in all honesty. Although I do intend, and have made progress doing already, reducing the severity of retaliatory statements and also attempting to find resolve faster instead of letting it fester. Not easily done of course. When in an argument with my wife I try more than anything to imagine what my statements would feel like on her end being received... empathy. One of the hardest things to feel when you are angry, let me tell you. It's hard spiritual work. Better still is to try and learn from the confrontation so that it can be prevented from happening again, which is what I usually do most. Of course, that may not be easy in your circumstance, Pab, since you're dealing with someone who may not quickly change her attitude, thus leaving you with little control over the catalyst she offers reoccurring. Of course what they say is true, "It's not what happens to you, it's how you handle it". True though it may be, it's not easy!

I share these 'symptoms' in my own personal situation. I am troubled by 'bursts' of short term anger sparked off by my partner providing the catalyst.

I wanted to note that it is my partner with whom I share such interactions, from time to time. It seems paradoxical that I should vent anger the most with the one person I am closest with, however it's actually the fact that our paths are so closely intertwined that I practically identify herself as myself. With other selves that I am not as close with I seem to be able to offer less confrontation and instead opt for a mental well wishing for them on their specific path.

As an aside, perhaps a good conflict and rise of emotions is a sign that we chose well those entities with whom we would interact with before we took incarnation. I can only imagine that a tranquil and utterly peaceful third density life, while being quite enjoyable, may not perhaps yield as much fruit to the over soul. See, everything has a silver lining

[Ashim]

My personal way of dealing with this is to try not to add 'fire' to the catalyst being 'thrown' at me but to engage the higher self sort of saying "ok what do you want to show me about me?"
I have found practicing this simple technique or 'protocol' I was able to develop compassion at a pace dictated by the self. My two beloved 'girls', wife and daughter are helping play out the last catalyst for maximum soul growth. These lessons and my confrontation with them will continue until the required negative polarity integration is achieved.
I am very grateful for this opportunity to come closer to my Creator; indeed my perception of the term gratitude has also vastly changed.

I thank you all for you kind words.

Love & Light

[Namaste]

Thanks Pablísimo, I mis-interpreted your current position, and am glad that the compassion/pity statement was useful to you.

As with Ashim and Lavazza, my own catalysts come from those closest to me (partner of 11 years), and are easily healed after the moment. It happened to me literally 5 minutes ago too. It seems that these moments are our greatest teachers, and will heal with determination, awareness, patience and forgiveness. Overcoming these will be huge leaps in the balance of the MBS complex, and as Ashim stated, gratefulness for their manifestation is of much importance.

[fairyfarmgirl]

When faced with the shenagians of the Mind River (which is always on and is the the same mind everyone uses) I simply recognize that it is the Mind doing its thing and I have the choice to disengage in that thought (all negative emotions are thoughts-- they do not come from the HEART they come from the mind).

Sometimes it takes a moment to realize that the Mind has slipped momentarily in the drivers seat of my body... and then I simply displace the Mind again and send it back to the Mind River. I re-Mind mySelf that the Mind is a Tool from which I draw from... not who I am... but simply a Tool.

Then, if in my momentarily lapse where the Mind was in charge (the Mind knows the Cost of Everything and yet values Nothing)... I apologize and Love and Learn from the slip that allowed the Mind to be in Control. And like a agressive submissive dog, (a dog that wants to submit but is too afraid so it bits and acts out toward the Master) the Mind truly works better if it is not in charge and is only called when needed.

I have also learned to let go of the thoughts and the stories we make up surrounding the thoughts. The only moment that truly exists is the one we are having at that moment... LOL although the Mind would like us to think that those moments that are before this one are more important than the one we are having at this moment. To truly be at peace one must be Out of Your Mind and in Your HEART.

What Ra calls catalyst I call the Mind. I see no reason why one would actively engage in Mind games with the Self--- this is not truly living for in doing so one is simply spinning the wheels of life stuck in a Mind Mire that holds the soul captive. We have a choice to no longer do this and to use the Mind as the tool it was meant to be used as.

Now, when I experience Anger, I am able to say. Ahhh so this is Anger... and allow the Anger to simply flow through me not engaging in the Anger but simply observing it and allowing it to flow on by. I find mySelf now laughing about the Anger and Loving it for what it is... and in certain instances in life, Anger is a tool for Action and Movement forward-- It is simply a tool of the Mind.

Love--

fairyfarmgirl

[Namaste]

Exceptional post fairyfarmgirl, thank you. On the same note, I read elsewhere (Living with Joy, if I recall correctly) to give love to negative emotions, and to love yourself for being human and on a learning path, and then to feel gratitude for being in a position that enables you to recognise the times when the Mind takes over. A very fast way to flip to a positive place.

I have thought of the Mind as the Ego; the perspective of separateness.

I prefer your analogy however, and this is a particularly profound insight:

I see no reason why one would actively engage in Mind games with the Self--- this is not truly living for in doing so one is simply spinning the wheels of life stuck in a Mind Mire that holds the soul captive. We have a choice to no longer do this and to use the Mind as the tool it was meant to be used as.

L&L