Do you think we attract those who need our help?

[Jeremy]

As I was meditating a minute ago, my friend popped into my head. I've developed some feelings for her but she's more of a friend and it's not something I'd want to potentially damage by being more than just friends. Anyways, I started pondering the reasons for the attraction and all of a sudden, I realized that she felt more like a project. A project that really has no reward other than to help her get back to being a happy person after all the hell she went through. I then started retracing all the women that I've dated or hung out with in the passed few years and every single one of them were either beat by their significant other or had very traumatic childhoods involving abuse. This got me wondering if we somehow attract projects for us to do our service to others?

[ChickenInSpace]

I believe so, yes. This has happened to me for every relationship I've had to date anyway.

[xise]

Yes. I believe so.

[native]

Good question Jeremy. Every day I am consciously attempting to refine how I'm supposed to help. I do think we get caught up in and can complicate the idea of service. Generally speaking, I think the idea is to be there for people when they ask for help. We spend so much time thinking about how to impart our knowledge and cure the world of its informed ways, but it seems that what this world needs is not people telling each other how to think, we need people to help each other in very common and simple ways. Service becomes very simple and straightforward that way.

So to answer your question, yes I think in some manner we attract things.

My understanding is that a healer (an adept) is someone who is consciously working with catalyst. Ra describes healers in this manner..

"6.1 The purpose of carefully and consciously opening this channel is to serve in a more dependable way, in a more commonplace or usual way, as seen by the distortion complex of the healer. To others there may appear to be miracles. To the one who has carefully opened the door to intelligent infinity this is ordinary; this is commonplace; this is as it should be. The life experience becomes somewhat transformed and the great work goes on."

"66.10 Therefore, there is no difference as long as the healer never approaches one whose request for aid has not come to it previously. This is also true of the more conventional healers of your culture and if these healers could but fully realize that they are responsible only for offering the opportunity of healing, and not for the healing, many of these entities would feel an enormous load of misconceived responsibility fall from them."

Since you can only help others in the manner that they are reaching out to you, you can see in the above that we don't have to cure the world or guide others in the moment, but passively "offer opportunity" for assistance or wisdom. And I do think we are supposed to be performing some unique task related to our interests and desires in giving back to the world, and not be passive in that sense.

In your example, I think it would be ok to reach out to them. When I think about my past, there were times when people asked simple things of me and I just didn't feel like doing it. And usually there were reasons that would make helping them inconvenient, so I could validate it. The more we help each other, the more possibility there is of inspiring others to do the same, in turn creating an environment of service and assistance.

[Jeremy]

I came to realize this quite a bit last night also. I was expecting my friend to ask to hang out and since I don't get to hang out with anyone that often, I was kinda hoping she would also. I was so tired though and I didn't really feel like it had she asked, Yet I told myself that it didn't matter if I was tired, I was there for her if she needed help and it kinda speaks to my path as of late. It seems I've become ok with sacrificing to help others. Sure it would be nice to get a little reciprocation every now and then but since that hasn't materialized, it doesn't seem to decrease this unconscious urge to continue to help either in personal matters or at work.

Some may chime in and mention that I can still find happiness and service without such sacrifice but considering my quite constraining and debilitating financial issues, I have nothing but such a service therefore doing something I may not necessarily feel like doin knowing that I can help someone is fine by me.

[Phoenix]

This is applicable to me. If I think of getting a girlfriend with the desire for service, it brings me to the kind of girl I have avoided all my life. The ones that you can just see the emotional intensity dropping off them. But without such girls in my life it will be me that creates the drama.

Thus I think projection can be a positive mechanism. To project our stuff but to see it as related to us, as a reflection.

[ChickenInSpace]

Phoenix, what you just said is Very applicable to me. In absence of such a mate I have created alot of drama. Now when I've been in a long term relationship for a while I realize that I do not need to respond in dramatic ways. It's as if an internal need is met by someone else and so I can focus on stability, understanding, etc.

[BlatzAdict]

As I was meditating a minute ago, my friend popped into my head. I've developed some feelings for her but she's more of a friend and it's not something I'd want to potentially damage by being more than just friends. Anyways, I started pondering the reasons for the attraction and all of a sudden, I realized that she felt more like a project. A project that really has no reward other than to help her get back to being a happy person after all the hell she went through. I then started retracing all the women that I've dated or hung out with in the passed few years and every single one of them were either beat by their significant other or had very traumatic childhoods involving abuse. This got me wondering if we somehow attract projects for us to do our service to others?

Jeremy we attract our mirrors, like attracts like, what you are attracting is what you yourself are, if the same synchronicity is happening perhaps there is a lack of growth?

Certain people talk to me at certain energetic wavelengths. When they dip below a certain point, that's when other certain people talk to me specifically.

Some people are drawn to my lows, and other people are drawn to my highs, other people are drawn to my neutrals. Umm I'm still figuring this out.

[Steppingfeet]

As I was meditating a minute ago, my friend popped into my head. I've developed some feelings for her but she's more of a friend and it's not something I'd want to potentially damage by being more than just friends. Anyways, I started pondering the reasons for the attraction and all of a sudden, I realized that she felt more like a project. A project that really has no reward other than to help her get back to being a happy person after all the hell she went through. I then started retracing all the women that I've dated or hung out with in the passed few years and every single one of them were either beat by their significant other or had very traumatic childhoods involving abuse. This got me wondering if we somehow attract projects for us to do our service to others?

In the spirit of Ra's statement about how "love and light go where they are needed", I would say that, yes, you may have this particular type of service to offer, and may therefore attract/find this particular type of person needing this service.

It's like you have the skillset of a mechanic. People are going to bring their cars to you for repair as a result.

But, of course, service given is service received. So like I believe you are implying in post #5, your service involves a real sacrifice on your part, but you have this need, and your need is fulfilled in being able to help others.

[Phoenix]

I used this post to say that the previous post I had said on the matter I didn't think true anymore. I just don't know anymore. Lol.

[BrownEye]

The teach/learn principle is automatic. There is also a healing action that can be automated through certain wanderers, which coincides with this "attraction" by/to those in need. You even see this in the wildlife kingdom when an injured animal approaches a human, then returns to its feral state once healed.

I myself notice that I am maneuvered to face certain individuals, where I then offer my services. Most often these individuals turn down offers of healing, in which they then learn an unneeded lesson. This is very obvious with cancer patients who scoff at any form of healing beyond prescribed toxin.

I have recently been pushed in front of a wanderer that was in the Iraq war, (which was an odd finding for me).

[Phoenix]

The basic query seems to be that if someone has contacted you telepathically and your intuition indicates it is for service. Then should you do that service.

I'd say yes.

Also a general apology for all the post editing seems in order.